I thought I should share this about getting a tattoo coming from a scaredy-cat like me (sensitive, really sensitive girl with a fear of all things needles).

Experience + Pain


I got a recommendation for a tattoo place from my colleague at work and didn't think twice to call them up. They told me to come whenever and bring my motive to discuss it and its price and that's what I did. My tattoo artist took a look and made some suggestions and we went through them and we both suggested changes in detail back and forth. That led to a great final draft that he pinned and took with my deposit of 40 pounds (the whole thing cost me 70 pounds which was less than I would've had to pay over in Germany).

My tattoo artist was pretty great and doing a good job at making me feel safe and comfortable when the day had come and when he was about to stick needles into my arm. I had picked an area that wasn't too painful for tattoos and I was extremely glad to realize that it didn't hurt too much. There were areas where it hurt a lot more but I didn't cry or scream or faint as I had expected.

If anything it felt like having a cat scratch you and just letting it happen. After getting it done it didn't hurt at all, all I felt was my tattoo itching from time to time whilst healing and my underarm being sore because of the position I was lying in for solid 30 minutes (went by extremely quickly).

Taking care of it


I got the recommendation to use Bepanthen that I easily got from Boots and I cleaned my tattoo three times a day with antiseptic wipes (and water and antiseptic soap) and let it air-dry, then put a thin layer of Bepanthen on it. Different tattoo artists suggest something else but what I was told was that Vaseline was too thick for the tattoo to "breathe" and a thin layer of Bepanthen would do the job. Here's a tip: Hold the tube of Bepanthen under warm water for a while. This thins out the substance and makes it super easy to apply.

Some people let their tattoos air-dry – which is very possible – but to be frank, the itching feeling of my healing tattoo whilst healing was unbearable to me and had me feeling irritated and unsettled so putting on Bepanthen helped a bunch.

No taking baths either because my tattoo shouldn't be soaked for at least the first two weeks. Breathable, loose clothes were a must. Protection from the sun is important, too. Don't touch your tattoo too much and don't let it be touched by others. You don't want it to get irritated or infected in any way.

If it happens to be scabbing, don't stress out. Don't pick the scabs, though! That's natural process for the healing and it should fall off on its own. Don't risk ink getting off.

I use cling wrap to protect my tattoo from getting irritated by clothes and my movement whilst sleeping. But don't use it too much during the day as it's important for your tattoo to be able to get some air when healing.


Advice to anyone thinking of getting a tattoo


  • Wait it out until you actually get a tattoo. Think about alternatives. Don't act too spontaneously, otherwise it's likely to be regretted.
  • Get your remedies before getting the tattoo so you don't have to stress once you've got it. 
  • You will be nervous before getting your first tattoo, especially if you're a scaredy-cat like myself. But just let your tattoo artist or a friend you brought take it off of your mind and talk to you through the whole procedure. Trust your tattoo artist. 
  • Try out several tattoo places to compare prices. Some of them don't seem too trustworthy so seek opinions on your motive in several places. 
  • Research on motives and meanings. 
  • Eat a full meal beforehand and drink enough water. No caffeine or aspirin in your system that day as both increase bleeding which could be of a problem for the artist to actually do his work. No alcohol beforehand, either!
  • Shower of course. And shave the area for your tattoo. 
  • Draw your own motive or bring a high quality photo. 
  • Take time to check the stencil design and its body placement beforehand. Don't be scared to say something, you're not going to hurt anyone's feelings, this is going to be permanent after all. 
  • Be prepared to go through some pain. Tattoos do hurt, some more, others less. Don't clench your fist as the muscles will change and make it harder for your artist to work on. Try to stay relaxed the whole time and pinch yourself somewhere else so you can maybe distract from the pain of getting inked. But your artist shall stop if it hurts too much. Google where tattoos hurt the most if you're curious about the tolerance of your body parts. 


The meaning of my tattoo


Two flowers, two branches, three leaves, the initials H and V. H stands for my mother as it is the first letter of her name. V stands for my sister. Both are symbolised as beautiful, timeless, pure flowers that stand for undying love, new beginnings, grace and watchfulness – features that I see in both of them and appreciate about them more than anything. They're my anchors. 

The branches stand for endurance and kind of look like open arms that I can always expect from my mother and sister as they always welcome me with open arms and would always take me in, no matter what and who doesn't want to. They're home to me and arms of support throughout. The branches are bent, standing for my kind of fucked up, sad past and parts of my childhood that I'd rather forget but they left something within me that brought me to where I am now, symbolised in the upwards motion that stands for "growing". 

The leaves stand for growing up and growing strong and there's three of them because 3 was my lucky number when I was young, always in connection with our family of three. Basically this tattoo is a complete representation of my love for both my mum and my sister and the bond the three of us have. I thought about this motive thoroughly and waited two years until I could be sure that I really really wanted to get it. 

If there's any further questions about my tattoo or anything else about getting tattoos, feel free to ask me! 

Until then – stay kind,
Arden

Getting A Tattoo – Pain & Meaning

3/31/2017


I thought I should share this about getting a tattoo coming from a scaredy-cat like me (sensitive, really sensitive girl with a fear of all things needles).

Experience + Pain


I got a recommendation for a tattoo place from my colleague at work and didn't think twice to call them up. They told me to come whenever and bring my motive to discuss it and its price and that's what I did. My tattoo artist took a look and made some suggestions and we went through them and we both suggested changes in detail back and forth. That led to a great final draft that he pinned and took with my deposit of 40 pounds (the whole thing cost me 70 pounds which was less than I would've had to pay over in Germany).

My tattoo artist was pretty great and doing a good job at making me feel safe and comfortable when the day had come and when he was about to stick needles into my arm. I had picked an area that wasn't too painful for tattoos and I was extremely glad to realize that it didn't hurt too much. There were areas where it hurt a lot more but I didn't cry or scream or faint as I had expected.

If anything it felt like having a cat scratch you and just letting it happen. After getting it done it didn't hurt at all, all I felt was my tattoo itching from time to time whilst healing and my underarm being sore because of the position I was lying in for solid 30 minutes (went by extremely quickly).

Taking care of it


I got the recommendation to use Bepanthen that I easily got from Boots and I cleaned my tattoo three times a day with antiseptic wipes (and water and antiseptic soap) and let it air-dry, then put a thin layer of Bepanthen on it. Different tattoo artists suggest something else but what I was told was that Vaseline was too thick for the tattoo to "breathe" and a thin layer of Bepanthen would do the job. Here's a tip: Hold the tube of Bepanthen under warm water for a while. This thins out the substance and makes it super easy to apply.

Some people let their tattoos air-dry – which is very possible – but to be frank, the itching feeling of my healing tattoo whilst healing was unbearable to me and had me feeling irritated and unsettled so putting on Bepanthen helped a bunch.

No taking baths either because my tattoo shouldn't be soaked for at least the first two weeks. Breathable, loose clothes were a must. Protection from the sun is important, too. Don't touch your tattoo too much and don't let it be touched by others. You don't want it to get irritated or infected in any way.

If it happens to be scabbing, don't stress out. Don't pick the scabs, though! That's natural process for the healing and it should fall off on its own. Don't risk ink getting off.

I use cling wrap to protect my tattoo from getting irritated by clothes and my movement whilst sleeping. But don't use it too much during the day as it's important for your tattoo to be able to get some air when healing.


Advice to anyone thinking of getting a tattoo


  • Wait it out until you actually get a tattoo. Think about alternatives. Don't act too spontaneously, otherwise it's likely to be regretted.
  • Get your remedies before getting the tattoo so you don't have to stress once you've got it. 
  • You will be nervous before getting your first tattoo, especially if you're a scaredy-cat like myself. But just let your tattoo artist or a friend you brought take it off of your mind and talk to you through the whole procedure. Trust your tattoo artist. 
  • Try out several tattoo places to compare prices. Some of them don't seem too trustworthy so seek opinions on your motive in several places. 
  • Research on motives and meanings. 
  • Eat a full meal beforehand and drink enough water. No caffeine or aspirin in your system that day as both increase bleeding which could be of a problem for the artist to actually do his work. No alcohol beforehand, either!
  • Shower of course. And shave the area for your tattoo. 
  • Draw your own motive or bring a high quality photo. 
  • Take time to check the stencil design and its body placement beforehand. Don't be scared to say something, you're not going to hurt anyone's feelings, this is going to be permanent after all. 
  • Be prepared to go through some pain. Tattoos do hurt, some more, others less. Don't clench your fist as the muscles will change and make it harder for your artist to work on. Try to stay relaxed the whole time and pinch yourself somewhere else so you can maybe distract from the pain of getting inked. But your artist shall stop if it hurts too much. Google where tattoos hurt the most if you're curious about the tolerance of your body parts. 


The meaning of my tattoo


Two flowers, two branches, three leaves, the initials H and V. H stands for my mother as it is the first letter of her name. V stands for my sister. Both are symbolised as beautiful, timeless, pure flowers that stand for undying love, new beginnings, grace and watchfulness – features that I see in both of them and appreciate about them more than anything. They're my anchors. 

The branches stand for endurance and kind of look like open arms that I can always expect from my mother and sister as they always welcome me with open arms and would always take me in, no matter what and who doesn't want to. They're home to me and arms of support throughout. The branches are bent, standing for my kind of fucked up, sad past and parts of my childhood that I'd rather forget but they left something within me that brought me to where I am now, symbolised in the upwards motion that stands for "growing". 

The leaves stand for growing up and growing strong and there's three of them because 3 was my lucky number when I was young, always in connection with our family of three. Basically this tattoo is a complete representation of my love for both my mum and my sister and the bond the three of us have. I thought about this motive thoroughly and waited two years until I could be sure that I really really wanted to get it. 

If there's any further questions about my tattoo or anything else about getting tattoos, feel free to ask me! 

Until then – stay kind,
Arden

After staying at a hostel this beginning of March before properly moving into my permanent place, I've been thinking to write a post about my experience and maybe give some tips to some of you who might will be staying at one and wonder what it's like. These are four tips I can give you after my four days at a hostel.

Introduce yourself.


It doesn't take long to say Hi. You could make new friends and helpful companions, even. You never know. Even though it's totally fine if you just hide in your bunk bed and not talk to anyone (which I pretty much did the first two days), it sure doesn't hurt to maybe talk to some fellow travellers if you feel lonely.

Be aware of others.


Remember to put up your towel to dry at the end of the bed instead of by the side because it'll block access to the bottom bunkee. Try to pack and unpack at times when no one is asleep. If you know you have to get up much earlier than the rest of them, choose your outfit beforehand so you won't have to unzip and zip your luggage and bags in the morning whilst trying to be quiet.

Have your own timing


If you enjoy longer showers and feel uncomfortable showering when everybody else is and waiting in a queue, go shower at times nobody else would. When I stayed at the hostel, I went to shower every day straight after work so it would be around 5 or 6 P.M. where everybody else would be getting ready to have dinner. 

Come prepared.


People are going to snore or talk just when you're about to doze off. So get your ear plugs and make use of them! If they turn on the light in the middle of the night, which could happen if people come in late, better have sleeping masks with you as well.

Bring padlocks


These are important so you can lock up your stuff that you want to keep safe. Not every hostel provides free padlocks so better come with your own. 

What are your tips? Have you stayed in a hostel dorm before?

Until then – stay cosy,
Arden

Tips For Staying In A Dorm At A Hostel

3/29/2017


After staying at a hostel this beginning of March before properly moving into my permanent place, I've been thinking to write a post about my experience and maybe give some tips to some of you who might will be staying at one and wonder what it's like. These are four tips I can give you after my four days at a hostel.

Introduce yourself.


It doesn't take long to say Hi. You could make new friends and helpful companions, even. You never know. Even though it's totally fine if you just hide in your bunk bed and not talk to anyone (which I pretty much did the first two days), it sure doesn't hurt to maybe talk to some fellow travellers if you feel lonely.

Be aware of others.


Remember to put up your towel to dry at the end of the bed instead of by the side because it'll block access to the bottom bunkee. Try to pack and unpack at times when no one is asleep. If you know you have to get up much earlier than the rest of them, choose your outfit beforehand so you won't have to unzip and zip your luggage and bags in the morning whilst trying to be quiet.

Have your own timing


If you enjoy longer showers and feel uncomfortable showering when everybody else is and waiting in a queue, go shower at times nobody else would. When I stayed at the hostel, I went to shower every day straight after work so it would be around 5 or 6 P.M. where everybody else would be getting ready to have dinner. 

Come prepared.


People are going to snore or talk just when you're about to doze off. So get your ear plugs and make use of them! If they turn on the light in the middle of the night, which could happen if people come in late, better have sleeping masks with you as well.

Bring padlocks


These are important so you can lock up your stuff that you want to keep safe. Not every hostel provides free padlocks so better come with your own. 

What are your tips? Have you stayed in a hostel dorm before?

Until then – stay cosy,
Arden


Don't be so hard on yourself. Don't beat yourself up for whatever is making you feel upset right now. What would you tell your best friend or loved one if it was them in your position? Would you still talk as harshly and accuse as blindly? You wouldn't, would you?

Now take that stuffed animal and put it on the chair in front of you. Look at it. Convert your situation and move it onto the stuffed animal, transforming yourself into a person from the outside. This is the stuffed animal's situation now. Let's say it stands for your best friend, your sister, your mother, your partner. What would you tell them if they told you about this situation they're in?

You'd probably tell them:

  • You've done the best you can.
  • You worked so hard on this, don't be so harsh on yourself.
  • Oh give yourself a break! You deserve it.
  • Well, have you tried ... (any advice)?
  • It sucks but what can you do? Stay strong, suck it up, take responsibility and try better next time. 
  • Stop comparing yourself to others and making you feel bad about yourself! Are they in your position? 
  • So what if they were able to study much more than you could? Do they work two part-time jobs like you? Are they mentally drained and depressed like you? Are they short of time like you? No? There you go. 
  • This is an awful situation but it will get better. Hang in there. 
  • It's fine to screw up. You're not the only one who ever screwed it up. 
  • So you screwed up. At least now you've learned a lesson and can remember next time. 

Now this is what you want to tell yourself in those situations. Realize that you're just being a bitch to yourself because you're upset. But do you deserve such harsh treatment by your very own person? Probably not. Stay kind to yourself like you would stay kind to your loved ones. 

Don't be so hard on yourself,
Arden

Don't be so hard on yourself.

3/27/2017


Don't be so hard on yourself. Don't beat yourself up for whatever is making you feel upset right now. What would you tell your best friend or loved one if it was them in your position? Would you still talk as harshly and accuse as blindly? You wouldn't, would you?

Now take that stuffed animal and put it on the chair in front of you. Look at it. Convert your situation and move it onto the stuffed animal, transforming yourself into a person from the outside. This is the stuffed animal's situation now. Let's say it stands for your best friend, your sister, your mother, your partner. What would you tell them if they told you about this situation they're in?

You'd probably tell them:

  • You've done the best you can.
  • You worked so hard on this, don't be so harsh on yourself.
  • Oh give yourself a break! You deserve it.
  • Well, have you tried ... (any advice)?
  • It sucks but what can you do? Stay strong, suck it up, take responsibility and try better next time. 
  • Stop comparing yourself to others and making you feel bad about yourself! Are they in your position? 
  • So what if they were able to study much more than you could? Do they work two part-time jobs like you? Are they mentally drained and depressed like you? Are they short of time like you? No? There you go. 
  • This is an awful situation but it will get better. Hang in there. 
  • It's fine to screw up. You're not the only one who ever screwed it up. 
  • So you screwed up. At least now you've learned a lesson and can remember next time. 

Now this is what you want to tell yourself in those situations. Realize that you're just being a bitch to yourself because you're upset. But do you deserve such harsh treatment by your very own person? Probably not. Stay kind to yourself like you would stay kind to your loved ones. 

Don't be so hard on yourself,
Arden
With today's Photo Palette, I am showing you some of my favourite photos that I took in Italy. There has been a post on the class trip back then a long time ago, which you can read here. These pictures were taken in 2014, in Pisa, Florence, Venice, Lake of Garda and Rome.

Pisa, Italy
Lake of Garda, Italy
Lake of Garda, Italy
Venice, Italy
Lake of Garda, Italy
Rome
Italy
Venice
Florence, Italy
Until then – stay groovy,
Arden

Photo Palette: Best of Italy

3/24/2017

With today's Photo Palette, I am showing you some of my favourite photos that I took in Italy. There has been a post on the class trip back then a long time ago, which you can read here. These pictures were taken in 2014, in Pisa, Florence, Venice, Lake of Garda and Rome.

Pisa, Italy
Lake of Garda, Italy
Lake of Garda, Italy
Venice, Italy
Lake of Garda, Italy
Rome
Italy
Venice
Florence, Italy
Until then – stay groovy,
Arden

After moving away from my hometown for college and then again for my internship abroad in the UK, I think I might know a little bit about homesickness now. This is different for everybody and highly depends on the circumstances, timing and your bonds with people around you.

Homesickness is the worst feeling I've ever had to feel and it was dramatically worse when I moved away from family for the very first time, even though I had anticipated the move and new beginning at college. I'm really close with my family so it was definitely hard for me to spend my first few weeks in a completely new town with no friends there that I knew from my old town. Neither had I known any of my college friends either because when I moved away, college hadn't started for two weeks. I moved away earlier so I could properly move and settle in before starting. So basically I spent the first two weeks in the new town on my own and not being much of a social or extroverted person, it was hard for me to get out to meet people. I only got out to see stuff and explore the town for myself.

But once I got back into my flat, I'd feel the deafening emptiness and I realized I was definitely, utterly on my own. And that needed time to sink in. The new responsibilities I now had overwhelmed me at first and being on my own most of the times before college started and I actually fortunately found friends added to that.

So now if you're feeling homesick and reading this, I want you to get some things out of this post. Here's how I deal and dealt with homesickness.


Explore your new surroundings


Go out to get to know your new surrounding, the new town and slowly get a feel for the town. Discover your favourite restaurants, your favourite area, the coffee shop you're most comfortable in, find a great park. Become an expat and make it a more comfortable place to be in yourself.

Know you're not alone


If you're starting out at college like I did, know that others in your class are most possibly feeling a bit homesick themselves and seeking to find a friend. Get to know people, try to be open and if needed, approach people. They won't bite, they're as new and clueless as you are.

Don't rely on Skype too much


Hear me out. Skype and social media are a great way to keep in contact and I couldn't imagine how secluded I would feel if there was no Skype or Whatsapp to use to talk to my family back home. But if used too much and too often, you won't get used to being on your own in your new town. The more you call them or videocall them, the more often you will miss them. Don't rely too much on keeping contact because you can catch up every other week or call if there's something important. Gradually you'll find that it's not too bad to be occupied in another way.

Make your new home "home"


My true home will always be my family's home-home but I find it to be extremely important to decorate your new flat or room in a way that it will make you feel really comfortable to be living there. That's why I have pictures of my family and friends, postcards, posters and a stuffed animal in my room. And I'd bring all of that anywhere if I were to be moving around a lot. Put effort into turning the totally new place into one that you will call "home" and mean it after a while.

Talk to others about how you're feeling


I thought it was embarrassing and weird at first but at one point I just told a newly made friend in college that I was feeling pretty down and homesick and they helped me by planning to go out more or going to those new courses or exploring town together. We spent a night together at my place and kept myself occupied and in company so I would slowly start to feel less lonely. Even if you don't really plan anything after telling someone, it definitely helps to hear their take on it. There's even meetups you can go to that are organised for newbies in town to exchange stories and meet up for a drink and just talk!


Get busy


Have something to do, some places to be, some people to meet up with, some work to do. Being and staying occupied is so important on this one because you barely get the time or drive to think too much about missing home. This point is actually really crucial to me because I remember that having nothing to do before college when I had already moved to the new town two weeks prior, I was at my worst and missing my family a lot each day and feeling really lonely in general. So get yourself out there and say yes to going out with those new college friends.

Hang in there


The best thing to do now is wait it out. And know it will get better. Really, I'm not saying this as a filler. This is so simple and easier said than done but so true. This helped me here in London because I've gone through the worst homesickness already, I was able to mentally "prepare", kind of, and be aware that homesickness is normal, that it will get better and that it always take some time so even if I cry in bed alone tonight, the next morning will be brighter. It might be really hard right now but hang in there, it will seriously, really get better.

What's your advice?

Until then – stay groovy,
Arden

Dealing With Homesickness

3/22/2017


After moving away from my hometown for college and then again for my internship abroad in the UK, I think I might know a little bit about homesickness now. This is different for everybody and highly depends on the circumstances, timing and your bonds with people around you.

Homesickness is the worst feeling I've ever had to feel and it was dramatically worse when I moved away from family for the very first time, even though I had anticipated the move and new beginning at college. I'm really close with my family so it was definitely hard for me to spend my first few weeks in a completely new town with no friends there that I knew from my old town. Neither had I known any of my college friends either because when I moved away, college hadn't started for two weeks. I moved away earlier so I could properly move and settle in before starting. So basically I spent the first two weeks in the new town on my own and not being much of a social or extroverted person, it was hard for me to get out to meet people. I only got out to see stuff and explore the town for myself.

But once I got back into my flat, I'd feel the deafening emptiness and I realized I was definitely, utterly on my own. And that needed time to sink in. The new responsibilities I now had overwhelmed me at first and being on my own most of the times before college started and I actually fortunately found friends added to that.

So now if you're feeling homesick and reading this, I want you to get some things out of this post. Here's how I deal and dealt with homesickness.


Explore your new surroundings


Go out to get to know your new surrounding, the new town and slowly get a feel for the town. Discover your favourite restaurants, your favourite area, the coffee shop you're most comfortable in, find a great park. Become an expat and make it a more comfortable place to be in yourself.

Know you're not alone


If you're starting out at college like I did, know that others in your class are most possibly feeling a bit homesick themselves and seeking to find a friend. Get to know people, try to be open and if needed, approach people. They won't bite, they're as new and clueless as you are.

Don't rely on Skype too much


Hear me out. Skype and social media are a great way to keep in contact and I couldn't imagine how secluded I would feel if there was no Skype or Whatsapp to use to talk to my family back home. But if used too much and too often, you won't get used to being on your own in your new town. The more you call them or videocall them, the more often you will miss them. Don't rely too much on keeping contact because you can catch up every other week or call if there's something important. Gradually you'll find that it's not too bad to be occupied in another way.

Make your new home "home"


My true home will always be my family's home-home but I find it to be extremely important to decorate your new flat or room in a way that it will make you feel really comfortable to be living there. That's why I have pictures of my family and friends, postcards, posters and a stuffed animal in my room. And I'd bring all of that anywhere if I were to be moving around a lot. Put effort into turning the totally new place into one that you will call "home" and mean it after a while.

Talk to others about how you're feeling


I thought it was embarrassing and weird at first but at one point I just told a newly made friend in college that I was feeling pretty down and homesick and they helped me by planning to go out more or going to those new courses or exploring town together. We spent a night together at my place and kept myself occupied and in company so I would slowly start to feel less lonely. Even if you don't really plan anything after telling someone, it definitely helps to hear their take on it. There's even meetups you can go to that are organised for newbies in town to exchange stories and meet up for a drink and just talk!


Get busy


Have something to do, some places to be, some people to meet up with, some work to do. Being and staying occupied is so important on this one because you barely get the time or drive to think too much about missing home. This point is actually really crucial to me because I remember that having nothing to do before college when I had already moved to the new town two weeks prior, I was at my worst and missing my family a lot each day and feeling really lonely in general. So get yourself out there and say yes to going out with those new college friends.

Hang in there


The best thing to do now is wait it out. And know it will get better. Really, I'm not saying this as a filler. This is so simple and easier said than done but so true. This helped me here in London because I've gone through the worst homesickness already, I was able to mentally "prepare", kind of, and be aware that homesickness is normal, that it will get better and that it always take some time so even if I cry in bed alone tonight, the next morning will be brighter. It might be really hard right now but hang in there, it will seriously, really get better.

What's your advice?

Until then – stay groovy,
Arden
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I've heard such good but mixed things about this show and decided to watch it myself so I could form my own opinion on it. Now that I'm almost through all three seasons, I must say this is one of the greatest shows I have ever encountered.

Although it is so amazing and eye-opening and I think everyone should see it because it is mind boggling to the point where you yourself begin to think really deeply, this is not for everyone, I believe. The topics that are touched on can be portrayed rather brutally and will leave you with a lingering depressing or even distraught feeling because of how intense it is.

This is how Wikipedia describes the series:

Featuring stand-alone dramas – sharp, suspenseful, satirical tales that explore techno-paranoia – "Black Mirror" is a contemporary reworking of "The Twilight Zone" with stories that tap into the collective unease about the modern world. Each story features its own cast of unique characters and touches on different issues.

This show will surprise you and take you to poignant places in your mind you didn't even know existed. The elements can be really shocking and appalling, others creep up on you slowly as you come to the end of the episode. All for one purpose: To make a very important point.

As every single episode could be its own stand-and-alone film, my advice while watching would be: Don't binge this series. I really mean it, guys. This series is amazing but really don't make the mistake to binge watch this one. There aren't many episodes but I think that's good as each episode is heavy on its own and there's only so much one can take in a day.

I binged the first two seasons in several days and found myself not being able to sleep – not because it's a Horror show or anything but because the topics and the genius twists made me stay up all night thinking about them.

To those who know the show, do you agree? Which episodes kept you awake (no spoilers, though)? I am planning on writing reviews on my favourite episodes where we can all discuss in the comments...

Until then – stay alert,
Arden

On Watching Black Mirror – A Warning

3/21/2017

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I've heard such good but mixed things about this show and decided to watch it myself so I could form my own opinion on it. Now that I'm almost through all three seasons, I must say this is one of the greatest shows I have ever encountered.

Although it is so amazing and eye-opening and I think everyone should see it because it is mind boggling to the point where you yourself begin to think really deeply, this is not for everyone, I believe. The topics that are touched on can be portrayed rather brutally and will leave you with a lingering depressing or even distraught feeling because of how intense it is.

This is how Wikipedia describes the series:

Featuring stand-alone dramas – sharp, suspenseful, satirical tales that explore techno-paranoia – "Black Mirror" is a contemporary reworking of "The Twilight Zone" with stories that tap into the collective unease about the modern world. Each story features its own cast of unique characters and touches on different issues.

This show will surprise you and take you to poignant places in your mind you didn't even know existed. The elements can be really shocking and appalling, others creep up on you slowly as you come to the end of the episode. All for one purpose: To make a very important point.

As every single episode could be its own stand-and-alone film, my advice while watching would be: Don't binge this series. I really mean it, guys. This series is amazing but really don't make the mistake to binge watch this one. There aren't many episodes but I think that's good as each episode is heavy on its own and there's only so much one can take in a day.

I binged the first two seasons in several days and found myself not being able to sleep – not because it's a Horror show or anything but because the topics and the genius twists made me stay up all night thinking about them.

To those who know the show, do you agree? Which episodes kept you awake (no spoilers, though)? I am planning on writing reviews on my favourite episodes where we can all discuss in the comments...

Until then – stay alert,
Arden

One of my goals that I never got to keep was finishing a journal and actually sticking to one. Having a Studyblr opened my eyes towards all the different kinds of journals there are. They are kind of endless and the best thing is that you can do with yours whatever you want. You can have multiple journals focusing on different topics or everything in one place. If you have an empty notebook that you want to use (that you bought because it was pretty but you never dared to actually write anything into it) but don’t know how, here are some ideas.

Quote Journal: who doesn't like keeping track of your favourite quotes? You can decorate your pages, doodle, practice calligraphy if you'd like

Creative writing Journal: in this one you can jot down anything that comes to your head for poems, short stories, any ideas for potential novels, monologues, even for character descriptions

Future plans Journal: write about your goals, now or later, the kind of life you hope to have, your to go's and bucket lists

Rant Journal: rant about anything and everything you need to vent about.

Book Journal:
 write book reviews, thoughts about characters, ships and favourite quotes or your own essays about some parts

Cafe Journal: visit different coffee shops and jot down your experience, kind of like reviews

Restaurant Journal: write about the food, service, atmosphere, snap pictures

Film/TV Show Journal: if you're into films and series, you can dedicate a page to each one you watch and write about the plot, the characters, your opinions, your thoughts, emotions and raves

Recipe Journal: if you like cooking, cut and paste recipes into your notebook and keep them for future reference, add your own ideas and successful experiments

Consumption Journal: jot down everything you consume if you're keen on keeping track for whatever reasons. food, drinks, beauty products, toilet paper, ink from pens, etc. Great for keeping track of finances as well

Happy Things Journal: all things happy, both big and small to read back on them when you need reminders.

What are your ideas for journals? Do you journal?

Until then – stay cosy,
Arden

Types Of Journals

3/20/2017


One of my goals that I never got to keep was finishing a journal and actually sticking to one. Having a Studyblr opened my eyes towards all the different kinds of journals there are. They are kind of endless and the best thing is that you can do with yours whatever you want. You can have multiple journals focusing on different topics or everything in one place. If you have an empty notebook that you want to use (that you bought because it was pretty but you never dared to actually write anything into it) but don’t know how, here are some ideas.

Quote Journal: who doesn't like keeping track of your favourite quotes? You can decorate your pages, doodle, practice calligraphy if you'd like

Creative writing Journal: in this one you can jot down anything that comes to your head for poems, short stories, any ideas for potential novels, monologues, even for character descriptions

Future plans Journal: write about your goals, now or later, the kind of life you hope to have, your to go's and bucket lists

Rant Journal: rant about anything and everything you need to vent about.

Book Journal:
 write book reviews, thoughts about characters, ships and favourite quotes or your own essays about some parts

Cafe Journal: visit different coffee shops and jot down your experience, kind of like reviews

Restaurant Journal: write about the food, service, atmosphere, snap pictures

Film/TV Show Journal: if you're into films and series, you can dedicate a page to each one you watch and write about the plot, the characters, your opinions, your thoughts, emotions and raves

Recipe Journal: if you like cooking, cut and paste recipes into your notebook and keep them for future reference, add your own ideas and successful experiments

Consumption Journal: jot down everything you consume if you're keen on keeping track for whatever reasons. food, drinks, beauty products, toilet paper, ink from pens, etc. Great for keeping track of finances as well

Happy Things Journal: all things happy, both big and small to read back on them when you need reminders.

What are your ideas for journals? Do you journal?

Until then – stay cosy,
Arden

I open my eyes to the whistle of a kettle.
For a split second I have to mentally relocate where I am and the lightning bulbs above my head tell me I'm the small girl in the big town of stars now. I’ve slipped into my daily routine before I even get to stumble into my slippers, with a little smile on my face because I look forward to more than a silver lining.
On my way to work I cross the same semi-crowded streets that slowly turn into familiar traces in fog and rain and sunshine, sometimes, yet are completely new to my excitedly beating friend that is my wanderlust driven heart. In a rattling tube I sit and I feel my phone vibrating in the pocket of my jacket and it turning silent once darkness swallows the train. Never do I look at it because I’m too focused on avoiding people’s gazes and watching the morning rays hit tired crowds and endless rows of houses and initials of Wembley Park.
Tired, annoyed faces taint the escalator row of waiting beings on their way to work, stressing over time that doesn’t stop. Alluring eyes of mine, still fresh of newness and excitement, cannot help but take in and observe the hurrying crowd, at rush-hour making it seem like there’s some kind of apocalypse going on downstairs the tube station. Everyone is rushing out and in and I am thrown in lanes, a step back and forward. There’s no time to stand still and wait so I don’t.
I walk.

Tube Essay, Volume 1. Until then,
Arden

Tube Essay #1

3/18/2017


I open my eyes to the whistle of a kettle.
For a split second I have to mentally relocate where I am and the lightning bulbs above my head tell me I'm the small girl in the big town of stars now. I’ve slipped into my daily routine before I even get to stumble into my slippers, with a little smile on my face because I look forward to more than a silver lining.
On my way to work I cross the same semi-crowded streets that slowly turn into familiar traces in fog and rain and sunshine, sometimes, yet are completely new to my excitedly beating friend that is my wanderlust driven heart. In a rattling tube I sit and I feel my phone vibrating in the pocket of my jacket and it turning silent once darkness swallows the train. Never do I look at it because I’m too focused on avoiding people’s gazes and watching the morning rays hit tired crowds and endless rows of houses and initials of Wembley Park.
Tired, annoyed faces taint the escalator row of waiting beings on their way to work, stressing over time that doesn’t stop. Alluring eyes of mine, still fresh of newness and excitement, cannot help but take in and observe the hurrying crowd, at rush-hour making it seem like there’s some kind of apocalypse going on downstairs the tube station. Everyone is rushing out and in and I am thrown in lanes, a step back and forward. There’s no time to stand still and wait so I don’t.
I walk.

Tube Essay, Volume 1. Until then,
Arden

In school and uni, it’s crucial to have good time management and save as much time as possible, especially if you have loads of classes with loads of assessment. If you can totally relate to what I’m saying, I’ve got a list of hacks for you that will make the process SO much easier.

Plan ahead


This is important. I mean no, you don't really want to stain your mood by planning ahead nerve-wracking study sessions but hear me out because it does help immensely. You plan ahead, you get more freedom in your days without feeling bad about having longer breaks.

Break down your assignment into the amount of days you have to do it


Be realistic about your time management and count the realistic amount of days you need between the day you're given it and the day it's due. Note every single tiny weeny detail you need to consider and do for the assignment, from reading chapters to printing your sheet. Split the list into the amount of days you've given yourself. Take every day to do work on your assignment and get it all done in time. Since you should be realistic in the first place while planning, you should be able to get it all done or easily shift around tasks. Also, factor in the draft date (if you're allowed to).

Let's take this example. You have 20 days to do your assignment in. Only 15 of those are certainly able to be dedicated to working on the assignment, like preparing the task, brainstorm, create a plan, create a structure, research, find quotes, write a thesis, introduction, body paragraphs, proof read, edit, give it someone else to proof read, print, staple...

  • Day 1: Read, highlight, brainstorm. 
  • Day 2: Make points of evidence. 
  • Day 3: Create a plan and paragraph structure. 
  • Day 4: Research on topic and quotes. 
  • Day 5: Write thesis. 
  • Day 6: Write the introduction. 
  • Day 7: Write body, paragraph 1. 
  • Day 8: Write body, paragraph 1. 
  • Day 9: Write body, paragraph 2.
  • Day 10: ...

Have a plan for your exams


You will probably know roughly what your exam is going to be on and how long you've got to study for it to the point you actually know stuff about the topic. Split your time up into small blocks according to what has to be done and looked at.

Split up the chapters themselves, plan each part to be done in a day or in a few set of hours of a day, highlight the most important things, revise each chapter on its own. Go ahead until you're through with them. Highlight the hardest ones or questions you still have for a set of study sessions after revisions.

Example:

  • Day 1: Get overview on topics (what to study), make a plan, split up chapters
  • Day 2: Plan amount of days and leave about a day or two before the exam for all remaining questions
  • Day 3: Chapter 1, Part 1, 2 and 3
  • Day 4: Chapter 2, Part 1 and 2
  • Day 5: ...

Prioritise in advance


Work each day class by class, figuring out when you can work on each task. If it’s due the next day or the day after, you need to finish it before anything else. Try to do homework as soon as you get them so you don't have to do them when you actually need time for more important things. Basically, just look forward in your calendar and see when your stuff is due and do it in order and following priority.

Make the perfect draft


This is a simple and straightforward one. Give your best at your draft and you'll have less work to do on your final. Give your best at editing and proof reading and avoid making tiny errors that your teacher or professor will have to correct. Eliminating the minor errors like spelling and grammar can do so much, your teacher/prof will have their focus on your actual points and thesis and arguments, rather than being caught up by tiny details that aren't even crucial for the essay.


What's your advice coming from a student or have-been-student? What do you think is the hardest to do when managing time?

Until then – stay productive,
Arden

Time Management For Students

3/17/2017


In school and uni, it’s crucial to have good time management and save as much time as possible, especially if you have loads of classes with loads of assessment. If you can totally relate to what I’m saying, I’ve got a list of hacks for you that will make the process SO much easier.

Plan ahead


This is important. I mean no, you don't really want to stain your mood by planning ahead nerve-wracking study sessions but hear me out because it does help immensely. You plan ahead, you get more freedom in your days without feeling bad about having longer breaks.

Break down your assignment into the amount of days you have to do it


Be realistic about your time management and count the realistic amount of days you need between the day you're given it and the day it's due. Note every single tiny weeny detail you need to consider and do for the assignment, from reading chapters to printing your sheet. Split the list into the amount of days you've given yourself. Take every day to do work on your assignment and get it all done in time. Since you should be realistic in the first place while planning, you should be able to get it all done or easily shift around tasks. Also, factor in the draft date (if you're allowed to).

Let's take this example. You have 20 days to do your assignment in. Only 15 of those are certainly able to be dedicated to working on the assignment, like preparing the task, brainstorm, create a plan, create a structure, research, find quotes, write a thesis, introduction, body paragraphs, proof read, edit, give it someone else to proof read, print, staple...

  • Day 1: Read, highlight, brainstorm. 
  • Day 2: Make points of evidence. 
  • Day 3: Create a plan and paragraph structure. 
  • Day 4: Research on topic and quotes. 
  • Day 5: Write thesis. 
  • Day 6: Write the introduction. 
  • Day 7: Write body, paragraph 1. 
  • Day 8: Write body, paragraph 1. 
  • Day 9: Write body, paragraph 2.
  • Day 10: ...

Have a plan for your exams


You will probably know roughly what your exam is going to be on and how long you've got to study for it to the point you actually know stuff about the topic. Split your time up into small blocks according to what has to be done and looked at.

Split up the chapters themselves, plan each part to be done in a day or in a few set of hours of a day, highlight the most important things, revise each chapter on its own. Go ahead until you're through with them. Highlight the hardest ones or questions you still have for a set of study sessions after revisions.

Example:

  • Day 1: Get overview on topics (what to study), make a plan, split up chapters
  • Day 2: Plan amount of days and leave about a day or two before the exam for all remaining questions
  • Day 3: Chapter 1, Part 1, 2 and 3
  • Day 4: Chapter 2, Part 1 and 2
  • Day 5: ...

Prioritise in advance


Work each day class by class, figuring out when you can work on each task. If it’s due the next day or the day after, you need to finish it before anything else. Try to do homework as soon as you get them so you don't have to do them when you actually need time for more important things. Basically, just look forward in your calendar and see when your stuff is due and do it in order and following priority.

Make the perfect draft


This is a simple and straightforward one. Give your best at your draft and you'll have less work to do on your final. Give your best at editing and proof reading and avoid making tiny errors that your teacher or professor will have to correct. Eliminating the minor errors like spelling and grammar can do so much, your teacher/prof will have their focus on your actual points and thesis and arguments, rather than being caught up by tiny details that aren't even crucial for the essay.


What's your advice coming from a student or have-been-student? What do you think is the hardest to do when managing time?

Until then – stay productive,
Arden

I think with my fourth semester going on at the moment, I might be in the position to write a How To College post as a, well, current college student! So if you're new to it, about to go to uni or college or actually already in the middle of the madness, this might still be for you, and maybe even amusing for some of you who've gone through it. Maybe you'll find yourself nodding with a grin on a face like, yep, that was me. 

  • always carry a phone, your charger, an umbrella and tampons/pads.
  • some nights you'll be at the library until it closes and you'll feel great about it
  • absolutely no one cares how you're dressed so you might as well come in sweatpants
  • carry pepper spray!
  • get involved in something! join clubs!
  • you will feel homesick your first semester but you will get through it. befriend people and be busy
  • take notes by hand
  • always go to class. only skip if you're ill or having to do an assignment 
  • naps will probably become your favourite part of the day
  • don't take a cup from a random person at parties. get your own drink
  • don't get too drunk and take it easy. be smart and drink at a friend's home or at your home.
  • call your parents and siblings at least once a week and catch up with them
  • make your bed every day
  • always have tissues and toilet paper at home
  • bother to eat home cooked meals instead of eating fast food or ordering in
  • friendships will come naturally. keep your options open, you don't have to have one best friend
  • stay up talking until the sun rises a couple of times, it's fun
  • it's not a bad thing to get to know your professor or campus staff member. it's great to have an adult friend on campus
  • take breaks while studying every couple hours
  • jump at every opportunity to do something fun!
  • take pictures of your friends doing stuff. embrace your memories 
  • you'll learn a bunch about yourself and other people
  • soak it up, it's definitely an experience, whether good or bad

What's your advice?

Until then – stay adventurous,
Arden

How To College (From A Current College Student)

3/15/2017


I think with my fourth semester going on at the moment, I might be in the position to write a How To College post as a, well, current college student! So if you're new to it, about to go to uni or college or actually already in the middle of the madness, this might still be for you, and maybe even amusing for some of you who've gone through it. Maybe you'll find yourself nodding with a grin on a face like, yep, that was me. 

  • always carry a phone, your charger, an umbrella and tampons/pads.
  • some nights you'll be at the library until it closes and you'll feel great about it
  • absolutely no one cares how you're dressed so you might as well come in sweatpants
  • carry pepper spray!
  • get involved in something! join clubs!
  • you will feel homesick your first semester but you will get through it. befriend people and be busy
  • take notes by hand
  • always go to class. only skip if you're ill or having to do an assignment 
  • naps will probably become your favourite part of the day
  • don't take a cup from a random person at parties. get your own drink
  • don't get too drunk and take it easy. be smart and drink at a friend's home or at your home.
  • call your parents and siblings at least once a week and catch up with them
  • make your bed every day
  • always have tissues and toilet paper at home
  • bother to eat home cooked meals instead of eating fast food or ordering in
  • friendships will come naturally. keep your options open, you don't have to have one best friend
  • stay up talking until the sun rises a couple of times, it's fun
  • it's not a bad thing to get to know your professor or campus staff member. it's great to have an adult friend on campus
  • take breaks while studying every couple hours
  • jump at every opportunity to do something fun!
  • take pictures of your friends doing stuff. embrace your memories 
  • you'll learn a bunch about yourself and other people
  • soak it up, it's definitely an experience, whether good or bad

What's your advice?

Until then – stay adventurous,
Arden



Settling in


I am not going to lie and say I am all settled in because I am really not. I am still overwhelmed and trying to adapt to this new life in a new town. I am learning a lot as an intern and plan a bunch of future trips here in London and surroundings so I am more excited than stressed by this point and that's great because this means my homesickness is basically gone for now, I don't feel too lonely or out of place and I have great days ahead to look forward to!


Getting a tattoo


This is an insane decision of mine but I've made it a few years ago. There's a certain motive that stands for my mother and sister, my most important anchors in life, that I want to get and an appointment has already been made so I. Am. Terrified. But I can't wait to get it. Mum hasn't been too happy about me getting any tattoos in general but she also gave her o.k. for doing what I want with my body as long as she feels alright with it and she's very okay with the motive as the meaning is massive to us three.  



Regent's Park


The sun was out yesterday and I got so happy. Our group of interns planned to go for a walk in Regent's Park so we got together and went, then spent half the day there which felt so blimmin' good. Even though it's so central and obviously further from where I actually live, I truly enjoyed the long walk we went on. The atmosphere was great, the fresh air was much needed and it was quite a workout after staying sat in the office for days. Here are some many shots I took. 



Dinner in Marylebone

On our hunt for a place to eat after our long journey, we walked around Marylebone and stumbled across a hip burger place called Burger Joint which served us a menu of a burger, fries and soda for roughly 10 Pounds. I loved the place, the atmosphere, the time we came in because it wasn't crowded and how friendly the staff was to us. The food is great, too. :-) 



How did your weekend go?

Until then – stay cosy,
Arden

FOTW | Regent's Park & Burgers Joint

3/12/2017




Settling in


I am not going to lie and say I am all settled in because I am really not. I am still overwhelmed and trying to adapt to this new life in a new town. I am learning a lot as an intern and plan a bunch of future trips here in London and surroundings so I am more excited than stressed by this point and that's great because this means my homesickness is basically gone for now, I don't feel too lonely or out of place and I have great days ahead to look forward to!


Getting a tattoo


This is an insane decision of mine but I've made it a few years ago. There's a certain motive that stands for my mother and sister, my most important anchors in life, that I want to get and an appointment has already been made so I. Am. Terrified. But I can't wait to get it. Mum hasn't been too happy about me getting any tattoos in general but she also gave her o.k. for doing what I want with my body as long as she feels alright with it and she's very okay with the motive as the meaning is massive to us three.  



Regent's Park


The sun was out yesterday and I got so happy. Our group of interns planned to go for a walk in Regent's Park so we got together and went, then spent half the day there which felt so blimmin' good. Even though it's so central and obviously further from where I actually live, I truly enjoyed the long walk we went on. The atmosphere was great, the fresh air was much needed and it was quite a workout after staying sat in the office for days. Here are some many shots I took. 



Dinner in Marylebone

On our hunt for a place to eat after our long journey, we walked around Marylebone and stumbled across a hip burger place called Burger Joint which served us a menu of a burger, fries and soda for roughly 10 Pounds. I loved the place, the atmosphere, the time we came in because it wasn't crowded and how friendly the staff was to us. The food is great, too. :-) 



How did your weekend go?

Until then – stay cosy,
Arden
Google

If you're as big of a Harry Potter enthusiast as I am, you will love this post. Because I'm coming at you with some HP inspired background noises for you that I've come across while browsing the ambient mixer website. The reason for that is that I love doing stuff with ambient noise. It really inspires me while writing and helps setting the atmosphere. I hope you enjoy these as much as I do!

On the way to Hogwarts


Outside of Hogwarts


Until then – stay magical,
Arden

Harry Potter Ambient Noise

3/10/2017

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If you're as big of a Harry Potter enthusiast as I am, you will love this post. Because I'm coming at you with some HP inspired background noises for you that I've come across while browsing the ambient mixer website. The reason for that is that I love doing stuff with ambient noise. It really inspires me while writing and helps setting the atmosphere. I hope you enjoy these as much as I do!

On the way to Hogwarts


Outside of Hogwarts


Until then – stay magical,
Arden

1. If you're a sentimental person like me, this will be a bit hard. But. Donate or throw away the triggering things in your life. That means get rid of that sweater from your ex even if it's pretty because will you really bear to wear it? And those old messages? If they sting, erase them.

2. Drink more water. Today, and tomorrow and the next day and the next. You'll feel the difference. Yes, you'll probably pee more often than usual but that skin will be so clear. 

3. Stretch after waking up. 

4. Try to find things you like about yourself when you pass the mirror. Those pants look fire on you! 

5. Go for more walks. Feel that weight lifted from ridding your life of negative things and feelings on the go.

6. Do the things you've always wanted to try! 

7. Declutter your flat, your room, office, wallet, purse. Clean up.

8. Reward yourself when accomplishing your tangible goals today. 

9. Go to bed a little earlier and get more of those Z's.

10. Dare to paint, draw, dance shamelessly in your room, play your piano or guitar and write. You can do anything. You're the one holding yourself back.

11. Try to add in more fruits and vegetables in a meal today.

12. Learn to cook! It doesn't have to be a five-star menu. Eat more home cooked meals.

13. Find yourself a really good book. If reading isn't your thing, find new music or new motives for drawing. 

14. Make a list of what makes you happy. Who makes you happy and what you do that makes you happy. Intentionally do those things more and find a reason to be happy every day. Keep the list and add more as you notice what makes you happy day by day. 

15. Dress up for no reason or make a reason! Get out of the house and do something, even if it's going to see a film alone. No need to feel like a potato if you don't want to.

16. Compliment three people today.

17. Have a good laugh. Watch a comedy act or series or a funny film.

18. Stop talking to those who make you feel bad about yourself and your plans. Unfollow the accounts that post too many sad things and trigger you. You can choose what is and isn't in your life. And if it doesn't work for some specific people or things, try to hang much more with those that do make you feel good about yourself.

19. Do random acts of kindness. It'll not only make them feel better but you, too. You never know who really desperately needed that little bit of kindness that day.

20. Join a club!

21. Increase the time you spend with friends, and family and just living instead of investing most of your time on technology! The days are flying past you and the lack of real memories will press down on you.

22. Be a kid again. Yes, you might be 20 now but honestly, what's the excuse not to do kid stuff again? Climb trees, spin around in circles in the grass, dance like a crazy person, play a card game, make blanket forts.

What's something you've always wanted to do? Something you never dared to do? 

Until then – stay yourself,
Arden

Improve Your Life In Just A Month

3/08/2017


1. If you're a sentimental person like me, this will be a bit hard. But. Donate or throw away the triggering things in your life. That means get rid of that sweater from your ex even if it's pretty because will you really bear to wear it? And those old messages? If they sting, erase them.

2. Drink more water. Today, and tomorrow and the next day and the next. You'll feel the difference. Yes, you'll probably pee more often than usual but that skin will be so clear. 

3. Stretch after waking up. 

4. Try to find things you like about yourself when you pass the mirror. Those pants look fire on you! 

5. Go for more walks. Feel that weight lifted from ridding your life of negative things and feelings on the go.

6. Do the things you've always wanted to try! 

7. Declutter your flat, your room, office, wallet, purse. Clean up.

8. Reward yourself when accomplishing your tangible goals today. 

9. Go to bed a little earlier and get more of those Z's.

10. Dare to paint, draw, dance shamelessly in your room, play your piano or guitar and write. You can do anything. You're the one holding yourself back.

11. Try to add in more fruits and vegetables in a meal today.

12. Learn to cook! It doesn't have to be a five-star menu. Eat more home cooked meals.

13. Find yourself a really good book. If reading isn't your thing, find new music or new motives for drawing. 

14. Make a list of what makes you happy. Who makes you happy and what you do that makes you happy. Intentionally do those things more and find a reason to be happy every day. Keep the list and add more as you notice what makes you happy day by day. 

15. Dress up for no reason or make a reason! Get out of the house and do something, even if it's going to see a film alone. No need to feel like a potato if you don't want to.

16. Compliment three people today.

17. Have a good laugh. Watch a comedy act or series or a funny film.

18. Stop talking to those who make you feel bad about yourself and your plans. Unfollow the accounts that post too many sad things and trigger you. You can choose what is and isn't in your life. And if it doesn't work for some specific people or things, try to hang much more with those that do make you feel good about yourself.

19. Do random acts of kindness. It'll not only make them feel better but you, too. You never know who really desperately needed that little bit of kindness that day.

20. Join a club!

21. Increase the time you spend with friends, and family and just living instead of investing most of your time on technology! The days are flying past you and the lack of real memories will press down on you.

22. Be a kid again. Yes, you might be 20 now but honestly, what's the excuse not to do kid stuff again? Climb trees, spin around in circles in the grass, dance like a crazy person, play a card game, make blanket forts.

What's something you've always wanted to do? Something you never dared to do? 

Until then – stay yourself,
Arden

I'm obviously not going to give away where exactly I've been room hunting but I did find a pretty cozy one that feels much more like home now that I've settled in, unpacked and decorated. My room is small but I don't need much space anyway. I brought my posters and some photos to look at when feeling homesick. Don't judge me because I brought my stuffed animal! I'm a big girl with a heavy heart, that's all I've got to say as a defense. ;-)

I am very lucky to have found this place as it was not too expensive and the house mate is super friendly and understanding of everything. I mean I can use Netflix and everything on his TV, I'm allowed to play my ukulele and annoy him with my singing. And he had a bunch of clothing hangers and adapters for me so that's a huge plus! All in all it's safe to say, I like it here a lot.


Until then – stay cosy,
Arden

My Place In London

3/07/2017


I'm obviously not going to give away where exactly I've been room hunting but I did find a pretty cozy one that feels much more like home now that I've settled in, unpacked and decorated. My room is small but I don't need much space anyway. I brought my posters and some photos to look at when feeling homesick. Don't judge me because I brought my stuffed animal! I'm a big girl with a heavy heart, that's all I've got to say as a defense. ;-)

I am very lucky to have found this place as it was not too expensive and the house mate is super friendly and understanding of everything. I mean I can use Netflix and everything on his TV, I'm allowed to play my ukulele and annoy him with my singing. And he had a bunch of clothing hangers and adapters for me so that's a huge plus! All in all it's safe to say, I like it here a lot.


Until then – stay cosy,
Arden

Who doesn't know the feeling of being overwhelmed? Either it's at work or uni, it doesn't matter. The feeling stays with you and can be a bit too much to deal with. If anything, it can be quite distracting. I feel overwhelmed a lot, not because I'm oh so busy but little things can add up and become overwhelming at some point so I try to deal with it when I do feel it.


Make sure that the break you take is actually a break


Taking a break is easy, though are you really taking a break? Example: If you work a job where you sit in front of the screen all the time, getting your food out and drinking is not a break. It's a break if you get up, get out of the office, maybe take a walk to the park, sit down and eat there. Get your eyes off the screen. Clear your head off the responsibilities. Don't take your work home, keep that folder at work where it belongs and only deal with it once you're back in the office the next day. When you get home, do not work on the things that you didn't get done at work. Continue working on it the next day. 

Stretch


So this one is easy and kind of cliché. It's not because I'm biased with the occasional yoga that I do. It's because stretching really helps. No, it probably won't improve your athletic performance but it helps to reduce any physical sign of stress in your body so you'll feel less it


Don't forget to get some perspective


Oh my god, this is too much, how the beep am I going to do this?! Wa-hait, before you stress out and totally explode, take a step back please. I mean it. Stop and look. Get your pen, make a list. Write everything down that is clogging up your head. You'll realise, all of the things that you need to do are tangible. You'll realise this is not as crazy as you thought. In fact, you get your head around the task and yep, see, it's actually do-able! 


Don't rush


Yes, it might be urgent. But don't get ahead of yourself. Take your time to do your tasks properly and fault-free. Rushing things will not get you anywhere, and if it does, your mind will scream at you for not taking care and resting it for some time. No need to multitask either. Even if you rock at it, spreading your attention across so many tasks can't be good in the long run. 


Get enough sleep!


I'm just saying never underestimate a good night of sleep. Or even take a nap. You. Need. Sleep. Do not lose sleep. 

Make time to tidy


Decide for a day in the week to clean your surrounding, your desk, your room, your flat. Get rid of baggage and crap you do not need and create a whole new workspace. Tidy space, tidy mind!


Treat yourself


Go on a weekend retreat, spend the rest of the evening in a bath tub, in bed, watching your favourite show, reading a good book, or if it helps, go shopping. Do what you like and treat yourself now and again. Reward yourself for your great work and effort. 


Any more tips from you? Feel free to let me know because I sure need those tips! :-)

Until then – stay cosy,
Arden

Feeling Overwhelmed?

3/06/2017


Who doesn't know the feeling of being overwhelmed? Either it's at work or uni, it doesn't matter. The feeling stays with you and can be a bit too much to deal with. If anything, it can be quite distracting. I feel overwhelmed a lot, not because I'm oh so busy but little things can add up and become overwhelming at some point so I try to deal with it when I do feel it.


Make sure that the break you take is actually a break


Taking a break is easy, though are you really taking a break? Example: If you work a job where you sit in front of the screen all the time, getting your food out and drinking is not a break. It's a break if you get up, get out of the office, maybe take a walk to the park, sit down and eat there. Get your eyes off the screen. Clear your head off the responsibilities. Don't take your work home, keep that folder at work where it belongs and only deal with it once you're back in the office the next day. When you get home, do not work on the things that you didn't get done at work. Continue working on it the next day. 

Stretch


So this one is easy and kind of cliché. It's not because I'm biased with the occasional yoga that I do. It's because stretching really helps. No, it probably won't improve your athletic performance but it helps to reduce any physical sign of stress in your body so you'll feel less it


Don't forget to get some perspective


Oh my god, this is too much, how the beep am I going to do this?! Wa-hait, before you stress out and totally explode, take a step back please. I mean it. Stop and look. Get your pen, make a list. Write everything down that is clogging up your head. You'll realise, all of the things that you need to do are tangible. You'll realise this is not as crazy as you thought. In fact, you get your head around the task and yep, see, it's actually do-able! 


Don't rush


Yes, it might be urgent. But don't get ahead of yourself. Take your time to do your tasks properly and fault-free. Rushing things will not get you anywhere, and if it does, your mind will scream at you for not taking care and resting it for some time. No need to multitask either. Even if you rock at it, spreading your attention across so many tasks can't be good in the long run. 


Get enough sleep!


I'm just saying never underestimate a good night of sleep. Or even take a nap. You. Need. Sleep. Do not lose sleep. 

Make time to tidy


Decide for a day in the week to clean your surrounding, your desk, your room, your flat. Get rid of baggage and crap you do not need and create a whole new workspace. Tidy space, tidy mind!


Treat yourself


Go on a weekend retreat, spend the rest of the evening in a bath tub, in bed, watching your favourite show, reading a good book, or if it helps, go shopping. Do what you like and treat yourself now and again. Reward yourself for your great work and effort. 


Any more tips from you? Feel free to let me know because I sure need those tips! :-)

Until then – stay cosy,
Arden
Cheers, hi. I'm alive, I survived the flight and am settling in day by day. A feeling of overwhelming waves crashes over me from time to time but it's only been a week so that's to be expected. I don't want to give away everything in one post just yet so I'll just tell you about how my first week went here in London and show you where I've been staying at. Stay tuned for upcoming posts on my permanent place and more!  

I spent my first night 


at the CitizenM Hotel in Shoreditch near Liverpool Street station, not because I'm that rich of a student but because I simply missed the Check-In time at the hostel. Yeah, embarrassing. But I did treat myself as the CitizenM hotel was so lovely to stay at. I only stayed for a night but I would always come again. The atmosphere is modern and quiet, even though it's located right by the street. I stayed in a double room and fell in love with their shampoos and shower gels and soaps. This might be weird but these are details I want to appreciate in a hotel room. Some of you might recognise some photos from my Instagram (where I post a bunch of Instagram stories, by the way!). 


After that the hostel


After checking out of CitizenM, I got on a taxi towards Willesden Green where the Palmer's Lodge Hillspring is located. Here I stayed four nights. I've never actually stayed at a hostel before where I shared a room with about fourteen other women. So this was an interesting experience. Actually, I will write a post on my tips for staying at a hostel pretty, pretty soon. 


I went room hunting


I had booked appointments for my second day at London, so asap, just so I would be able to cram viewings into a day and decide quickly for a place. It's so important to view rooms in person before putting any deposit down. I haven't had any experience with scammers but this is something I made sure I'd do. Which is why I decided to stay at the hostel for the first week instead of getting a place before coming here.


First days at work


So I went in with no idea what to expect. The agency I work in now is amazing, friendly, in a huge building that is not too far from my permanent place that I found. Of course the first few days were pretty exhausting as I was bombarded with information that I barely got to sort out. My first full day at work on Friday went pretty well, actually. I got to do some tasks completely by myself. My line manager and us interns get along just great and I am lucky to have her as the person to turn to when I don't know where to go with my many, probably stupid, questions. Long story short, I think I will like it here. 


Until then – stay tuned,
Arden

First Week – Hotel & Hostel Stay In London

3/05/2017

Cheers, hi. I'm alive, I survived the flight and am settling in day by day. A feeling of overwhelming waves crashes over me from time to time but it's only been a week so that's to be expected. I don't want to give away everything in one post just yet so I'll just tell you about how my first week went here in London and show you where I've been staying at. Stay tuned for upcoming posts on my permanent place and more!  

I spent my first night 


at the CitizenM Hotel in Shoreditch near Liverpool Street station, not because I'm that rich of a student but because I simply missed the Check-In time at the hostel. Yeah, embarrassing. But I did treat myself as the CitizenM hotel was so lovely to stay at. I only stayed for a night but I would always come again. The atmosphere is modern and quiet, even though it's located right by the street. I stayed in a double room and fell in love with their shampoos and shower gels and soaps. This might be weird but these are details I want to appreciate in a hotel room. Some of you might recognise some photos from my Instagram (where I post a bunch of Instagram stories, by the way!). 


After that the hostel


After checking out of CitizenM, I got on a taxi towards Willesden Green where the Palmer's Lodge Hillspring is located. Here I stayed four nights. I've never actually stayed at a hostel before where I shared a room with about fourteen other women. So this was an interesting experience. Actually, I will write a post on my tips for staying at a hostel pretty, pretty soon. 


I went room hunting


I had booked appointments for my second day at London, so asap, just so I would be able to cram viewings into a day and decide quickly for a place. It's so important to view rooms in person before putting any deposit down. I haven't had any experience with scammers but this is something I made sure I'd do. Which is why I decided to stay at the hostel for the first week instead of getting a place before coming here.


First days at work


So I went in with no idea what to expect. The agency I work in now is amazing, friendly, in a huge building that is not too far from my permanent place that I found. Of course the first few days were pretty exhausting as I was bombarded with information that I barely got to sort out. My first full day at work on Friday went pretty well, actually. I got to do some tasks completely by myself. My line manager and us interns get along just great and I am lucky to have her as the person to turn to when I don't know where to go with my many, probably stupid, questions. Long story short, I think I will like it here. 


Until then – stay tuned,
Arden

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