I'm paying much more attention to whether I live my life as fully as I can because I realized that I've been letting days pass by just like that for too long. Without significance, just rushing through time. Maybe you notice it, too, and would like to change something about that mindset as you go through your day.

Based on this guide to living your life consciously from Zen Habits, I personally, honestly answered these following questions in ways that made me realize that, no, I'm not living consciously like I should.


01. Are you working in a job that you accepted or fell into rather than the job you actually want? 


I'm actually positive that I picked a subject to study in college for that I love and I think fits me pretty well. And my first part-time job was definitely something I fell into but I quit to do something I enjoy much more.

02. Are you actually doing what you love to do?


I'm happy that I can answer this question by saying that yes, I do a lot that I actually love to do, like blogging, making music, writing stories and photography. But then again there are things I love to do that I cannot do because of money and time, like for example traveling.

03. Are you spending your time doing busy work rather than what you actually feel like doing with your days?


I'm a college student and work part-time so my answer is my days are actually packed with work to do almost every day. Of course I would rather spend my days differently but you have to do what you've got to do. And I do get myself some me-time and off-days to relax and do what I like.

04. Do you wish you could spend more time with your loved ones?


Oh, definitely. I would love to spend much more time with my mum and my sister who don't even live so far away, yet I don't have the time to get to see them. I would love to see the guy I love much more because we live an hour and a half away from each other. I would love to see my family in Vietnam much more but that's just not possible every year. And now so much time has passed that all the babies have grown up and probably forgotten about me, my cousins all are at work now or moved away with their partners. Time flies and life doesn't wait for anyone... I get it now.

05. Do you find yourself overweight because you’ve been eating the food you’ve been eating for years and stuck in a rut of not exercising?


I don't think I'm overweight but I could definitely eat healthier and more consciously. It's become a habit to eat the things that I like but aren't so healthy. I'm oftentimes too lazy to get up and exercise and I should definitely do it more.

06. Do you find yourself living from paycheck to paycheck or in debt, not knowing where your money goes?


This question defines me. Yes. Not really in debt but yes, I live from paycheck to paycheck. But it's mostly because I am a dependent college student that tends to be broke by the end of the month.

07. Do you find yourself wasting your time doing things that aren’t important rather than focusing on completing the things that are very important?


No, actually, I think it depends on what I view as priorities. Say I've got a lot to do for work or uni. I will do that as soon as I can because those things are important to me. When someone I love is sick or feeling unwell, I will ditch that party or that drink and drive to them. I don't really do things first when they're not important to me.

08. Do you go through your days not thinking about what you want out of life and how to get it?


This hits me hard. Because yes, I actually just let the days pass me by with a blink and then wonder what I actually got done. I just work and study for the next day, for the next weeks, for the next months. Sure, I have plans in mind but what I really want out of life is somehow just in the back of my head. Maybe because I fear that what I want out of life might mean big, scary changes or sacrifices or something that can't ever be achieved. So I just live every day not wallowing in it much. Maybe I should do that and listen to myself and what life means to me and what I want it to be for me.

How did you answer these questions? Comment below, I'd love to hear your answers!
Hope you have a lovely week ahead. Stay tuned for my next post on living consciously, on how to actually live consciously!

Until then - stay present,
Arden

Are you living consciously? - A questionnaire.

11/29/2016


I'm paying much more attention to whether I live my life as fully as I can because I realized that I've been letting days pass by just like that for too long. Without significance, just rushing through time. Maybe you notice it, too, and would like to change something about that mindset as you go through your day.

Based on this guide to living your life consciously from Zen Habits, I personally, honestly answered these following questions in ways that made me realize that, no, I'm not living consciously like I should.


01. Are you working in a job that you accepted or fell into rather than the job you actually want? 


I'm actually positive that I picked a subject to study in college for that I love and I think fits me pretty well. And my first part-time job was definitely something I fell into but I quit to do something I enjoy much more.

02. Are you actually doing what you love to do?


I'm happy that I can answer this question by saying that yes, I do a lot that I actually love to do, like blogging, making music, writing stories and photography. But then again there are things I love to do that I cannot do because of money and time, like for example traveling.

03. Are you spending your time doing busy work rather than what you actually feel like doing with your days?


I'm a college student and work part-time so my answer is my days are actually packed with work to do almost every day. Of course I would rather spend my days differently but you have to do what you've got to do. And I do get myself some me-time and off-days to relax and do what I like.

04. Do you wish you could spend more time with your loved ones?


Oh, definitely. I would love to spend much more time with my mum and my sister who don't even live so far away, yet I don't have the time to get to see them. I would love to see the guy I love much more because we live an hour and a half away from each other. I would love to see my family in Vietnam much more but that's just not possible every year. And now so much time has passed that all the babies have grown up and probably forgotten about me, my cousins all are at work now or moved away with their partners. Time flies and life doesn't wait for anyone... I get it now.

05. Do you find yourself overweight because you’ve been eating the food you’ve been eating for years and stuck in a rut of not exercising?


I don't think I'm overweight but I could definitely eat healthier and more consciously. It's become a habit to eat the things that I like but aren't so healthy. I'm oftentimes too lazy to get up and exercise and I should definitely do it more.

06. Do you find yourself living from paycheck to paycheck or in debt, not knowing where your money goes?


This question defines me. Yes. Not really in debt but yes, I live from paycheck to paycheck. But it's mostly because I am a dependent college student that tends to be broke by the end of the month.

07. Do you find yourself wasting your time doing things that aren’t important rather than focusing on completing the things that are very important?


No, actually, I think it depends on what I view as priorities. Say I've got a lot to do for work or uni. I will do that as soon as I can because those things are important to me. When someone I love is sick or feeling unwell, I will ditch that party or that drink and drive to them. I don't really do things first when they're not important to me.

08. Do you go through your days not thinking about what you want out of life and how to get it?


This hits me hard. Because yes, I actually just let the days pass me by with a blink and then wonder what I actually got done. I just work and study for the next day, for the next weeks, for the next months. Sure, I have plans in mind but what I really want out of life is somehow just in the back of my head. Maybe because I fear that what I want out of life might mean big, scary changes or sacrifices or something that can't ever be achieved. So I just live every day not wallowing in it much. Maybe I should do that and listen to myself and what life means to me and what I want it to be for me.

How did you answer these questions? Comment below, I'd love to hear your answers!
Hope you have a lovely week ahead. Stay tuned for my next post on living consciously, on how to actually live consciously!

Until then - stay present,
Arden

Turning Twenty

This week I turned twenty years old, had a fancy dinner with my mother and my sister and then went for some drinks. I didn't drink too much since I had appointments and uni on the next day but it was a great day nevertheless. The sun was shining, too and the wind wasn't too harsh on me. I'd say it was a pretty good birthday. Lowkey but fun


Happy Thanksgiving

Although we don't celebrate Thanksgiving here in Germany, I thought I would still share what I am grateful for because I love the concept of this holiday. I am grateful for my caring and hardworking mother who always has my back, my sister, my close friends who cheer me up, support me and everything I do, my health during these windy and cold days, I am grateful to be able to study the subject I like and having the opportunity to work as an intern in beautiful London next year.

I am grateful for everything that enables me to write and express my feelings. I am grateful for therapists for being there for mentally exhausted people in need. I am grateful for my favourite artists for existing, putting a smile on my face and blessing my ears with their audible art. I am grateful for drawings and paintings and songs and literature.

What are you grateful for?


Publishing books

This week I officially started working on the publishing process of my first three books that I will put up for sale. It's crazy to think that I'm actually doing this! I mean it has always been a dream and a goal. And even though I haven't been discovered or anything, I found the perfect publishing companies and decided to settle with them.

I am proof-reading, editing and rewriting my mystery / thriller "Loopholes" and putting two of my most cherished and Wattpad "popular" short stories "To Ethan" and "To Aubrey" in one. These two books will be out in February / March.
My anthology "Naked As We Came" on the other hand will already be available in paperback in December. More about that will come as soon as it is out!


Shows

My best friend and partner in crime suggested I watch the show Bones since I was already finished with Criminal Minds and was looking for something similarly exciting to watch. The series isn't even completed yet but there are like 11 seasons out so I still have some way to go. I absolutely love this show, as it's interesting, thrilling and the character development of each character is admirable. Their interactions between one another are just funny to watch, too. Crime, comedy and drama in one.


Music

Dodie Clark's (aka doddleoddle from YouTube) has released her first EP and it's called "Intertwined"! I've loved this girl as a musician and as a person for so long and I can't help but feel deep pride for this little bun. Her music is absolutely lovely and my favourite song off the EP would be "When". The lyrics are amazing. #Relatable. And so is the music. And her voice.


Links

What have you been doing this month?

Until then - stay kind,
Arden

FOTW | Birthday, Thanksgiving & Publishing books

11/27/2016


Turning Twenty

This week I turned twenty years old, had a fancy dinner with my mother and my sister and then went for some drinks. I didn't drink too much since I had appointments and uni on the next day but it was a great day nevertheless. The sun was shining, too and the wind wasn't too harsh on me. I'd say it was a pretty good birthday. Lowkey but fun


Happy Thanksgiving

Although we don't celebrate Thanksgiving here in Germany, I thought I would still share what I am grateful for because I love the concept of this holiday. I am grateful for my caring and hardworking mother who always has my back, my sister, my close friends who cheer me up, support me and everything I do, my health during these windy and cold days, I am grateful to be able to study the subject I like and having the opportunity to work as an intern in beautiful London next year.

I am grateful for everything that enables me to write and express my feelings. I am grateful for therapists for being there for mentally exhausted people in need. I am grateful for my favourite artists for existing, putting a smile on my face and blessing my ears with their audible art. I am grateful for drawings and paintings and songs and literature.

What are you grateful for?


Publishing books

This week I officially started working on the publishing process of my first three books that I will put up for sale. It's crazy to think that I'm actually doing this! I mean it has always been a dream and a goal. And even though I haven't been discovered or anything, I found the perfect publishing companies and decided to settle with them.

I am proof-reading, editing and rewriting my mystery / thriller "Loopholes" and putting two of my most cherished and Wattpad "popular" short stories "To Ethan" and "To Aubrey" in one. These two books will be out in February / March.
My anthology "Naked As We Came" on the other hand will already be available in paperback in December. More about that will come as soon as it is out!


Shows

My best friend and partner in crime suggested I watch the show Bones since I was already finished with Criminal Minds and was looking for something similarly exciting to watch. The series isn't even completed yet but there are like 11 seasons out so I still have some way to go. I absolutely love this show, as it's interesting, thrilling and the character development of each character is admirable. Their interactions between one another are just funny to watch, too. Crime, comedy and drama in one.


Music

Dodie Clark's (aka doddleoddle from YouTube) has released her first EP and it's called "Intertwined"! I've loved this girl as a musician and as a person for so long and I can't help but feel deep pride for this little bun. Her music is absolutely lovely and my favourite song off the EP would be "When". The lyrics are amazing. #Relatable. And so is the music. And her voice.


Links

What have you been doing this month?

Until then - stay kind,
Arden

Welcome back to the blog! I'm here with a November Q&A, why? Because every month this will be a thing. You get to ask me questions about me, I'll answer them. So lovely Nana from Arraday.com nominated me for a Liebster Award a day back or two and of course I am accepting and I feel really flattered that she thought of me. Since I made a Liebster Award post not too long ago, I thought I would answer her questions in a Q&A instead. Hope this is okay, Nana!


01. What do you love most about yourself?


I love that I'm constantly growing to become a better person. I love that I am a good listener and care a lot about people like it's my nature. I love about myself that I'm small so guys can give me piggyback rides when I want them to, just kidding. And I love about myself that I have a great taste in music. Answering this question actually makes me smile right now. We never think enough about the things we are good at or what we do well and swell on our insecurities. If you're reading this right now, comment three things you love about yourself down below! :-)

02. What is one of the nicest things anyone has ever done for you?


There are so many nice things that people have done for me (I don't deserve them) that it feels unfair to only name one case. Let's say I appreciate when people try to cheer me up when they notice that I'm unhappy whilst I try to cover it up. I appreciate when people plan birthday parties for me when I tell them I don't think my birthday is so important and I'm not going to celebrate it and when friends from out of town surprise me by coming to uni and calling me to come downstairs. I appreciate when people show small and big signs that they care about me.

03. What is one of the nicest things you've ever done for anyone? How did you feel?


Whenever I leave positive feedback on people's writing, they get so happy and I love that I made someone smile. How I feel about it when that happens? I get so happy and feel better about myself instantly. That goes for any kind of compliment. So compliment one another more. Seriously!

04. What is your all-time favourite song, and why?


Queen's Don't Stop Me Now must be my all-time favourite song. I grew up with this song and still almost cry when I hear it play in a bar. It's beautiful. Everything about the song is. It's connected with so many memories and emotions that I never skip it even once.

05. What is the most daring or craziest thing you've ever done?


Most daring thing would be having boyfriends behind my strict father's back. That was like, really daring to me, lol. I just realized that I haven't really done anything shitbat crazy which means I should absolutely change that!

06. When was the last time you laughed so hard your stomach hurt and tears came out?


I always laugh so hard about insiders so it's too complicated to even attempt to explain what it was but it was on my birthday with fellow guy friends from uni. They were having verbal jokes and just cracking each other up. I'm sure I spit out my burger at some point. And I couldn't drink water for a few minutes because I didn't want to spill it.

07. Who is your favourite teacher, and why? (could be anyone, not just teachers in school)


My favourite teacher was my music teacher from High School who is now the leader of our chamber choir. He's cool and hilarious and feels somehow like a father figure to us since he tries hard to keep us together and supports the talent of our singers. He's open but has strong opinions and he's not afraid to say them. He's so passionate and has a great taste in music which he then plays during our breaks during choir camp. He tears up when he thinks of having to shut down the choir for any reasons. I never told him how much I appreciated him as a teacher and our guide but I will show him by making him proud with great performances.

08. What do you think happens after death?


I will be put to sleep. For eternity. I will exist in the universe as some kind of spirit. My power, my existence, my being will be unseen. Not living, not dead, just like a star in the sky.

09. In your opinion, how does a girl respect her own body?


She will find things she loves about it and she'll learn to wear things she wants to wear and not care about what other people think. Beauty standards are misconceptions by society that awaken nothing but insecurities. Look how hot you are! Those cute dimples and those adorable freckles. And the stretchmarks? No boy or girl will care when they feel the electricity while getting in touch skin to skin. Respect yourself and your body, girl!

10. What is a book you read that changed you or made a big impact on your life? (or your fave books)


I think all books I read and learned to love changed something within me, whether it was an opinion or a point of view on life and its companions. So ultimately they would have an impact on my life in some way. I think the books that really had an impact on me were Perks Of Being A Wallflower, Everything I Never Told YouForgive Me Leonard Peacock and Me Before You.

11. What is your most precious memory?


This is a hard question. Every single beautiful, grateful, breathtaking and heartwarming moment will be forever imprinted in my mind for good reasons.


Hope you guys are doing well and that you enjoyed this Q&A! I will be making these regularly so if you have any questions in mind, feel free to leave them below for the next one.

Until then - stay groovy,
Arden

November Q&A

11/26/2016


Welcome back to the blog! I'm here with a November Q&A, why? Because every month this will be a thing. You get to ask me questions about me, I'll answer them. So lovely Nana from Arraday.com nominated me for a Liebster Award a day back or two and of course I am accepting and I feel really flattered that she thought of me. Since I made a Liebster Award post not too long ago, I thought I would answer her questions in a Q&A instead. Hope this is okay, Nana!


01. What do you love most about yourself?


I love that I'm constantly growing to become a better person. I love that I am a good listener and care a lot about people like it's my nature. I love about myself that I'm small so guys can give me piggyback rides when I want them to, just kidding. And I love about myself that I have a great taste in music. Answering this question actually makes me smile right now. We never think enough about the things we are good at or what we do well and swell on our insecurities. If you're reading this right now, comment three things you love about yourself down below! :-)

02. What is one of the nicest things anyone has ever done for you?


There are so many nice things that people have done for me (I don't deserve them) that it feels unfair to only name one case. Let's say I appreciate when people try to cheer me up when they notice that I'm unhappy whilst I try to cover it up. I appreciate when people plan birthday parties for me when I tell them I don't think my birthday is so important and I'm not going to celebrate it and when friends from out of town surprise me by coming to uni and calling me to come downstairs. I appreciate when people show small and big signs that they care about me.

03. What is one of the nicest things you've ever done for anyone? How did you feel?


Whenever I leave positive feedback on people's writing, they get so happy and I love that I made someone smile. How I feel about it when that happens? I get so happy and feel better about myself instantly. That goes for any kind of compliment. So compliment one another more. Seriously!

04. What is your all-time favourite song, and why?


Queen's Don't Stop Me Now must be my all-time favourite song. I grew up with this song and still almost cry when I hear it play in a bar. It's beautiful. Everything about the song is. It's connected with so many memories and emotions that I never skip it even once.

05. What is the most daring or craziest thing you've ever done?


Most daring thing would be having boyfriends behind my strict father's back. That was like, really daring to me, lol. I just realized that I haven't really done anything shitbat crazy which means I should absolutely change that!

06. When was the last time you laughed so hard your stomach hurt and tears came out?


I always laugh so hard about insiders so it's too complicated to even attempt to explain what it was but it was on my birthday with fellow guy friends from uni. They were having verbal jokes and just cracking each other up. I'm sure I spit out my burger at some point. And I couldn't drink water for a few minutes because I didn't want to spill it.

07. Who is your favourite teacher, and why? (could be anyone, not just teachers in school)


My favourite teacher was my music teacher from High School who is now the leader of our chamber choir. He's cool and hilarious and feels somehow like a father figure to us since he tries hard to keep us together and supports the talent of our singers. He's open but has strong opinions and he's not afraid to say them. He's so passionate and has a great taste in music which he then plays during our breaks during choir camp. He tears up when he thinks of having to shut down the choir for any reasons. I never told him how much I appreciated him as a teacher and our guide but I will show him by making him proud with great performances.

08. What do you think happens after death?


I will be put to sleep. For eternity. I will exist in the universe as some kind of spirit. My power, my existence, my being will be unseen. Not living, not dead, just like a star in the sky.

09. In your opinion, how does a girl respect her own body?


She will find things she loves about it and she'll learn to wear things she wants to wear and not care about what other people think. Beauty standards are misconceptions by society that awaken nothing but insecurities. Look how hot you are! Those cute dimples and those adorable freckles. And the stretchmarks? No boy or girl will care when they feel the electricity while getting in touch skin to skin. Respect yourself and your body, girl!

10. What is a book you read that changed you or made a big impact on your life? (or your fave books)


I think all books I read and learned to love changed something within me, whether it was an opinion or a point of view on life and its companions. So ultimately they would have an impact on my life in some way. I think the books that really had an impact on me were Perks Of Being A Wallflower, Everything I Never Told YouForgive Me Leonard Peacock and Me Before You.

11. What is your most precious memory?


This is a hard question. Every single beautiful, grateful, breathtaking and heartwarming moment will be forever imprinted in my mind for good reasons.


Hope you guys are doing well and that you enjoyed this Q&A! I will be making these regularly so if you have any questions in mind, feel free to leave them below for the next one.

Until then - stay groovy,
Arden


Twenty years old. It feels so weird saying this. I went eating fancy dinner with my family yesterday, then proceeded to be surprised by friends and we met up for more food and drinks. We laughed and talked and sang along to Queen. We were the last people in the bar and drank away Guinesses and White Russians. We almost got into a fist fight with unreasonable, strange, suspiciously fishy older men pestering me and my friends without reason but got away and I panicked a bit but my friends protected me and then I walked home at four in the morning with flowers in my hands whilst watching the birds fly over the bridge and everything was alright.

It will once again take a few days or even weeks to get used to saying "twenty". It's such a clean number, yet full of responsibility, fun maturity, anxiety, futuristic hopes and hopeful dreams. I feel old yet so incredibly young. Maybe I'm a kid at heart so it pains me a little to grow and realize that I'm growing.

I want to remember this moment. And this birthday in particular. No special or significant reason for that, really. Just to remember.

The night before my 20th birthday I had gone through old journals and transported myself to my sixteen year old self that was carefree and ridiculous and deeply in love with the adventures of life. But also depressed at some point and tossed into big ups and downs.

My mind clogged up with thoughts about the places I've been to and never feeling my age and not caring about the kid in me that showed itself on playgrounds on the swings, thoughts about the places I jotted down in my notepad for future references, thoughts about friendly neighbourhoods and heart-wrenching fates and flickering TVs in cozy homes. Thoughts about falling in and out of puppy love, not settling for anyone because I didn't belong to any city or man. Thoughts about being alone but not lonely and then feeling lonely whilst not actually being on my own.

And once I closed that book, I found myself again, as in the young woman that is right now. And as if I was looking back on my life, I wished to be sixteen again and not have to deal with taxes and bills and work till my limbs were tired and have the pressure to succeed in a subject that is going to determine my way of life.

I had a conversation with my best friend the night I turned twenty. I was legit sobbing (I had drunken some wine before and had a mental breakdown over my quick trip to the past) and I told her that I wasn't feeling myself and I felt like I should have something figured out by now but felt like I didn't get anything done really. And she told me something that was quite reassuring. "You've progressed so much. You grew so much in many ways and you may have not noticed it so you don't know because you progressed in a way that was a little different from what you expected as change when you were only sixteen. You grew, just differently."

And you know what. It's okay how it is now. I'm not entirely happy, I admit, there are scary thoughts in my head that I need to deal with when I sit with my therapist, but I have moments of overwhelming love that it's worth the day to day struggles because at the end of the day they're small and temporary and dealable. Happy 20 to myself.

Until then - stay cozy,
Arden

Me At 20.

11/24/2016



Twenty years old. It feels so weird saying this. I went eating fancy dinner with my family yesterday, then proceeded to be surprised by friends and we met up for more food and drinks. We laughed and talked and sang along to Queen. We were the last people in the bar and drank away Guinesses and White Russians. We almost got into a fist fight with unreasonable, strange, suspiciously fishy older men pestering me and my friends without reason but got away and I panicked a bit but my friends protected me and then I walked home at four in the morning with flowers in my hands whilst watching the birds fly over the bridge and everything was alright.

It will once again take a few days or even weeks to get used to saying "twenty". It's such a clean number, yet full of responsibility, fun maturity, anxiety, futuristic hopes and hopeful dreams. I feel old yet so incredibly young. Maybe I'm a kid at heart so it pains me a little to grow and realize that I'm growing.

I want to remember this moment. And this birthday in particular. No special or significant reason for that, really. Just to remember.

The night before my 20th birthday I had gone through old journals and transported myself to my sixteen year old self that was carefree and ridiculous and deeply in love with the adventures of life. But also depressed at some point and tossed into big ups and downs.

My mind clogged up with thoughts about the places I've been to and never feeling my age and not caring about the kid in me that showed itself on playgrounds on the swings, thoughts about the places I jotted down in my notepad for future references, thoughts about friendly neighbourhoods and heart-wrenching fates and flickering TVs in cozy homes. Thoughts about falling in and out of puppy love, not settling for anyone because I didn't belong to any city or man. Thoughts about being alone but not lonely and then feeling lonely whilst not actually being on my own.

And once I closed that book, I found myself again, as in the young woman that is right now. And as if I was looking back on my life, I wished to be sixteen again and not have to deal with taxes and bills and work till my limbs were tired and have the pressure to succeed in a subject that is going to determine my way of life.

I had a conversation with my best friend the night I turned twenty. I was legit sobbing (I had drunken some wine before and had a mental breakdown over my quick trip to the past) and I told her that I wasn't feeling myself and I felt like I should have something figured out by now but felt like I didn't get anything done really. And she told me something that was quite reassuring. "You've progressed so much. You grew so much in many ways and you may have not noticed it so you don't know because you progressed in a way that was a little different from what you expected as change when you were only sixteen. You grew, just differently."

And you know what. It's okay how it is now. I'm not entirely happy, I admit, there are scary thoughts in my head that I need to deal with when I sit with my therapist, but I have moments of overwhelming love that it's worth the day to day struggles because at the end of the day they're small and temporary and dealable. Happy 20 to myself.

Until then - stay cozy,
Arden

So I've been nominated for the Liebster Award by the lovely Augustin Ra from Indie Spirit! First of all thank you because wow, you thought of my blog. That's definitely an honor, haha. For those who don't know what it is: It's an award that is given from bloggers to other bloggers with a set of questions for them to answer in a post.

"Liebster" is a German word that translates into "Dearest" and the earliest case of the award goes back until 2011. Without further ado, here comes the questions and my answers. This way you'll even be able to get to know a bit more about me.


What's the story behind your name?


I like to travel and wander around anywhere really, so I tend to be missing for hours and days or weeks and travel quietly. That's how I came to the name for my blog, Missing Wanderer. It was also inspired by the quote:
Not all who wander are lost.

Who is the most influential person in your life?


The people who have the most influence on me are my mother, my younger sister and my best friend. They keep me on the ground and help me realistically. They often don't even have to say anything to influence me, how I feel about them and what I cherish about them shape my behaviour and actions and how I want to be as a person.

How would you describe your personality?


If I was to describe myself in a few words, I would probably say loyal, introverted, kind, loving and passionate. I am quite bubbly and open if I know you some more or if you caught me on a good day, haha. I'm witty but I'm not always witty. You could say my personality is based on my mood, pretty much. Of course anyone could say different things about me and I'm clearly still uncertain and searching for myself. I'm far from knowing myself completely. But I guess many of us are. And that's okay.

Who is the most influential person you want to meet in person and what do you want to learn from him/her?


Honestly, I don't know. There's so much I must learn and so much I will learn by coincidence so anyone could come around and teach me the greatest lesson ever.

If you had to live your life all over again, what part of your life would you change?


This sounds incredibly cliché but to be frank, I wouldn't change a thing. Not even the horrible and upsetting things I've been through because I know in my heart that if I wouldn't have experienced life as I have, I wouldn't be this person I am today. I would be totally different. I would have other views on life. I would have other perspectives, maybe whole different opinions. And I don't think I would like that. Heck, life's been a lesson.

What is your edge from other bloggers?


I think there are quite a few similarities that all bloggers have, that's why I enjoy reading blogs of mindedlike bloggers so much.
We all may have similar designs, similar series, similar blog posts with the same old topics but we still write about things that we are passionate about as individuals and what we make of it makes us different from each other. What distuingishes me from other bloggers? Honestly, I don't know anything else than the fact that I'm me and not other bloggers and have my own things that I'm passionate about, as well as others. Maybe you could help me with this, readers?

What is the most important lesson your mother has taught you?


  • Be forgiving but don't forget.
     
  • Don't fall in the same pit over and over just because you hope for something to change that clearly won't.
     
  • There's always something to fight for. Sticks and stones may break your bones but in the end it's worth it.
     
  • "NOOOOO, don't put that in the washing machine, are you insane?"

What is your favourite body part?


On me or on others? In general I would say hands. You can hold them, they keep yours warm and they're pretty.

How will you make a difference in this world?


By living consciously, by spreading positivity, by believing in peaceful interactions.

If we were together right now what would you tell me?


Excuse me, I will answer this generally rather than just to one specific person. You matter. Don't you ever forget that.

If I were in your doorstep right now, where would you take me and why?


I'd offer you a seat and a cup of the good ol' tea. Other than that I'd take you for a walk until we'd reach Neustadt (="New town" with old buildings, bars, shops and randoms in Dresden) because it's my favourite place in this town.
I know it's not really the point of this award but I do want to nominate: all of you, my readers. Anyone who would want to answer these questions:
1. What would you tell your 15 year old self?
2. Who would you take on a trip around the world?
3. What is your favourite book and why?
4. What do you appreciate most about a blog you're reading?
5. Who are you in three words? 
Happy answering.

Until then - stay cozy,
Arden

Portrait Of A Blogger | Liebster Award 2016

11/08/2016


So I've been nominated for the Liebster Award by the lovely Augustin Ra from Indie Spirit! First of all thank you because wow, you thought of my blog. That's definitely an honor, haha. For those who don't know what it is: It's an award that is given from bloggers to other bloggers with a set of questions for them to answer in a post.

"Liebster" is a German word that translates into "Dearest" and the earliest case of the award goes back until 2011. Without further ado, here comes the questions and my answers. This way you'll even be able to get to know a bit more about me.


What's the story behind your name?


I like to travel and wander around anywhere really, so I tend to be missing for hours and days or weeks and travel quietly. That's how I came to the name for my blog, Missing Wanderer. It was also inspired by the quote:
Not all who wander are lost.

Who is the most influential person in your life?


The people who have the most influence on me are my mother, my younger sister and my best friend. They keep me on the ground and help me realistically. They often don't even have to say anything to influence me, how I feel about them and what I cherish about them shape my behaviour and actions and how I want to be as a person.

How would you describe your personality?


If I was to describe myself in a few words, I would probably say loyal, introverted, kind, loving and passionate. I am quite bubbly and open if I know you some more or if you caught me on a good day, haha. I'm witty but I'm not always witty. You could say my personality is based on my mood, pretty much. Of course anyone could say different things about me and I'm clearly still uncertain and searching for myself. I'm far from knowing myself completely. But I guess many of us are. And that's okay.

Who is the most influential person you want to meet in person and what do you want to learn from him/her?


Honestly, I don't know. There's so much I must learn and so much I will learn by coincidence so anyone could come around and teach me the greatest lesson ever.

If you had to live your life all over again, what part of your life would you change?


This sounds incredibly cliché but to be frank, I wouldn't change a thing. Not even the horrible and upsetting things I've been through because I know in my heart that if I wouldn't have experienced life as I have, I wouldn't be this person I am today. I would be totally different. I would have other views on life. I would have other perspectives, maybe whole different opinions. And I don't think I would like that. Heck, life's been a lesson.

What is your edge from other bloggers?


I think there are quite a few similarities that all bloggers have, that's why I enjoy reading blogs of mindedlike bloggers so much.
We all may have similar designs, similar series, similar blog posts with the same old topics but we still write about things that we are passionate about as individuals and what we make of it makes us different from each other. What distuingishes me from other bloggers? Honestly, I don't know anything else than the fact that I'm me and not other bloggers and have my own things that I'm passionate about, as well as others. Maybe you could help me with this, readers?

What is the most important lesson your mother has taught you?


  • Be forgiving but don't forget.
     
  • Don't fall in the same pit over and over just because you hope for something to change that clearly won't.
     
  • There's always something to fight for. Sticks and stones may break your bones but in the end it's worth it.
     
  • "NOOOOO, don't put that in the washing machine, are you insane?"

What is your favourite body part?


On me or on others? In general I would say hands. You can hold them, they keep yours warm and they're pretty.

How will you make a difference in this world?


By living consciously, by spreading positivity, by believing in peaceful interactions.

If we were together right now what would you tell me?


Excuse me, I will answer this generally rather than just to one specific person. You matter. Don't you ever forget that.

If I were in your doorstep right now, where would you take me and why?


I'd offer you a seat and a cup of the good ol' tea. Other than that I'd take you for a walk until we'd reach Neustadt (="New town" with old buildings, bars, shops and randoms in Dresden) because it's my favourite place in this town.
I know it's not really the point of this award but I do want to nominate: all of you, my readers. Anyone who would want to answer these questions:
1. What would you tell your 15 year old self?
2. Who would you take on a trip around the world?
3. What is your favourite book and why?
4. What do you appreciate most about a blog you're reading?
5. Who are you in three words? 
Happy answering.

Until then - stay cozy,
Arden

New categories

I'm currently still working on the new design and content on Squarespace for the new Missing Wanderer blog. Of course all posts will be migrated and my content will be the same as before obviously but there still are going to be some changes that I want to tell you about.

First of all, there's going to be this thing called Letterbox. I'll talk about it a little more once the new blog is online but just before that, I'd just like to tell you that it will exist and that it will be a great thing for Missing Wanderer in my opinion. To keep it short, Letterbox will be an advice column that I will post weekly, which would make my schedule look as follows: 2 regular posts about anything, 1 advice column post, 1 weekly round-up. It's going to be a lot and it's steering towards posting every day which I won't just because I don't think I can manage that many posts as of yet.

About the advice column: it will be based on questions that you, my readers, will send in via contact form. Everyone will stay anonymous in such advice column post. And I am indeed planning on getting back to every single person.

There will be another change. I will add photo diaries which will be tagged in the category Photo Palette. In the category Record Collection I will keep sharing my themed playlists to you. Any recommendations, favourites, new-ins and books will be tagged in Bits & Bobs. And all my thoughts and unpopular opinions will be tagged under Ramblings.

Anyway, I am very excited for the move and I'm happy to see that you all are as well!


About Twitter & Things

Maybe you already follow me on Twitter but if you don't, maybe give it a little think before you do because I did decide to give out my "personal" Twitter instead of a "business Twitter" created for my blog solely. There's not much of a reason behind that. It's just that rather than a brand of some sorts, I see myself as a person who is who she is and isn't afraid to show that. So I'm not closing myself off and pretending to be all in order when I'm not. So that's basically why I'm giving you my personal Twitter account where I can be rather, very personal and appear to be quite unfiltered, let's say. I hope you don't mind. Because I really don't want to hold myself back or think about how I come across on Twitter.

And people might ask how I feel about the whole world being able to read about my life and my deepest secrets. But to be honest, what I tell on here isn't everything at all. It can get rather personal like here but you won't know every little thing about me and there's loads I don't talk about on here. But when I do, I don't mind that much. It just feels like having a bunch of online friends knowing about me. And that's pretty freaking cool.


Music
  • I've been obsessed with Bob Dylan again lately. Ever since I went out with a bunch of new people from college and one girl kept wishing for classic 70s, 80s and 90s in that one bar, I fell in love again. 
  • One of my favourite K-Pop sub-units CBX (from EXO) released their first mini album called Hey Mama recently and it's so funky, does really give me the 60s and early Michael Jackson vibes. 
  • In fall, I always listen to Lewis Watson's "the morning" album. It's become a ritual. 
  • Also Taeyeon's new song 11:11 is super dreamy and I keep listening to it on repeat.


Links

What have you been enjoying this weekend?

Until then - stay cozy,
Arden

FOTW | New categories, Twitter & EXO-CBX

11/06/2016


New categories

I'm currently still working on the new design and content on Squarespace for the new Missing Wanderer blog. Of course all posts will be migrated and my content will be the same as before obviously but there still are going to be some changes that I want to tell you about.

First of all, there's going to be this thing called Letterbox. I'll talk about it a little more once the new blog is online but just before that, I'd just like to tell you that it will exist and that it will be a great thing for Missing Wanderer in my opinion. To keep it short, Letterbox will be an advice column that I will post weekly, which would make my schedule look as follows: 2 regular posts about anything, 1 advice column post, 1 weekly round-up. It's going to be a lot and it's steering towards posting every day which I won't just because I don't think I can manage that many posts as of yet.

About the advice column: it will be based on questions that you, my readers, will send in via contact form. Everyone will stay anonymous in such advice column post. And I am indeed planning on getting back to every single person.

There will be another change. I will add photo diaries which will be tagged in the category Photo Palette. In the category Record Collection I will keep sharing my themed playlists to you. Any recommendations, favourites, new-ins and books will be tagged in Bits & Bobs. And all my thoughts and unpopular opinions will be tagged under Ramblings.

Anyway, I am very excited for the move and I'm happy to see that you all are as well!


About Twitter & Things

Maybe you already follow me on Twitter but if you don't, maybe give it a little think before you do because I did decide to give out my "personal" Twitter instead of a "business Twitter" created for my blog solely. There's not much of a reason behind that. It's just that rather than a brand of some sorts, I see myself as a person who is who she is and isn't afraid to show that. So I'm not closing myself off and pretending to be all in order when I'm not. So that's basically why I'm giving you my personal Twitter account where I can be rather, very personal and appear to be quite unfiltered, let's say. I hope you don't mind. Because I really don't want to hold myself back or think about how I come across on Twitter.

And people might ask how I feel about the whole world being able to read about my life and my deepest secrets. But to be honest, what I tell on here isn't everything at all. It can get rather personal like here but you won't know every little thing about me and there's loads I don't talk about on here. But when I do, I don't mind that much. It just feels like having a bunch of online friends knowing about me. And that's pretty freaking cool.


Music
  • I've been obsessed with Bob Dylan again lately. Ever since I went out with a bunch of new people from college and one girl kept wishing for classic 70s, 80s and 90s in that one bar, I fell in love again. 
  • One of my favourite K-Pop sub-units CBX (from EXO) released their first mini album called Hey Mama recently and it's so funky, does really give me the 60s and early Michael Jackson vibes. 
  • In fall, I always listen to Lewis Watson's "the morning" album. It's become a ritual. 
  • Also Taeyeon's new song 11:11 is super dreamy and I keep listening to it on repeat.


Links

What have you been enjoying this weekend?

Until then - stay cozy,
Arden


First things first, I thought I'd tell you that living consciously will be a major part of this blog and I hope that you'll enjoy reading about it, as well as practicing it with me! I am also beginning to feel like maybe building a little community isn't impossible with Missing Wanderer. I've realized that with this, I'm reaching out to many people, not only mutuals but also interested people. So I find that super interesting -- which only added to my wish to create a little community around here. But more about that coming soon.

Back to living consciously: I found that a big part of turning to conscious living was to realize what my money was worth, what my purchases were worth and what work is put into things that I purchase.

After watching documentaries and going to my local museum that had a whole segment about fast fashion, I was deeply moved and started digging more into the fashion industry.

And I took a look at my wardrobe. And then I not only started to declutter and giving things away, I also stopped shopping at bigger brands and instead turned to second hand stores and thrift shopping.
I'm not saying I'm a saint and I only own thrifted items and only wear those but I'm trying to do better. And to be honest, thrift shopping isn't all too bad! If anything, there's so much positivity coming with it that I feel better after every purchase. And not just because I'm bringing some cool new items back home!

You could find awesome gems!


When I found my last few items that I brought home with me with the biggest smile, I kept thinking to myself "How hasn't anyone picked this up yet?". You could find designer clothes or other really cool gems you couldn't find anywhere else with your budget. An example would probably be my super handy handbag that I thrifted last time and featured in my Handbag Essentials post here.

It's definitely affordable!


Now thrift stores are known for cheap stuff and for a college student who needs the money for bills, tuition and other priorities, this comes in handy when on the look-out for new clothes. And the less the things cost, the more you can spend, the bigger the bags, right? I mean why would I buy a shirt that costs about 20€ in one shop when I can have two shirts, a sweater and awesome shorts for the same amount of money from a thrift store?

Quality value


Just because the clothes are cheap, doesn't mean their quality is! More than anything, I found gems with great quality mostly in thrift stores.
And thrift stores aren't just selling old clothes that were thrown away. They're checking the quality thorougly before selling them.

You'll find mostly hidden treasures that are just one of a kind!


It's rare to find one piece twice in a thrift store. Which is freaking awesome in my opinion (not very much so when you'd love this certain piece in another size). This will give you that special something because you're not likely to see anyone else walking around the town with the same outfit. You can create your very own style and since you never know what you'll find, you might find something you never thought you'd need.

It's good for the environment!


Re-using something that has already been used instead of letting it being thrown away is a super green thing to do. Not only do you actively choose not to support shady cooperations and brands who employ in horrific working conditions but you also support ethical clothing and acknowledge how much of toxic pesticides, chemicals and water is being used with the production of clothing.
If you would like to take a look at a list of ethical clothing brands, find this list by Patti from Shifting Tales here.


Thrift stores are great for collectors!


There aren't just clothes, you'll definitely find books, CDs, old records, cassettes, mugs, scarves, paintings, movies, jewellery and much more you can look through. It's definitely worth it to just have a look around.

Thrift stores help the community.


Whilst thrift shopping, you help give back to local communities. Many thrift stores are run by nonprofit, charitable organisations that also pull their double duties to provide other needed services for the community. Shopping at these stores will keep them in business, especially for the benefit of low-income households and others in need.

And last but not least, thrift stores let you recycle your own clothes.


Now I don't think all thrift stores do this but I do know of some that do, based on commissions of course. Instead of throwing them away or anything, your clothes can definitely find a second home in thrift stores.


Do you ever go to thrift stores? What are you most amazing finds so far?

Until then - stay conscious,
Arden

Reasons You Should Be Thrifting

11/04/2016



First things first, I thought I'd tell you that living consciously will be a major part of this blog and I hope that you'll enjoy reading about it, as well as practicing it with me! I am also beginning to feel like maybe building a little community isn't impossible with Missing Wanderer. I've realized that with this, I'm reaching out to many people, not only mutuals but also interested people. So I find that super interesting -- which only added to my wish to create a little community around here. But more about that coming soon.

Back to living consciously: I found that a big part of turning to conscious living was to realize what my money was worth, what my purchases were worth and what work is put into things that I purchase.

After watching documentaries and going to my local museum that had a whole segment about fast fashion, I was deeply moved and started digging more into the fashion industry.

And I took a look at my wardrobe. And then I not only started to declutter and giving things away, I also stopped shopping at bigger brands and instead turned to second hand stores and thrift shopping.
I'm not saying I'm a saint and I only own thrifted items and only wear those but I'm trying to do better. And to be honest, thrift shopping isn't all too bad! If anything, there's so much positivity coming with it that I feel better after every purchase. And not just because I'm bringing some cool new items back home!

You could find awesome gems!


When I found my last few items that I brought home with me with the biggest smile, I kept thinking to myself "How hasn't anyone picked this up yet?". You could find designer clothes or other really cool gems you couldn't find anywhere else with your budget. An example would probably be my super handy handbag that I thrifted last time and featured in my Handbag Essentials post here.

It's definitely affordable!


Now thrift stores are known for cheap stuff and for a college student who needs the money for bills, tuition and other priorities, this comes in handy when on the look-out for new clothes. And the less the things cost, the more you can spend, the bigger the bags, right? I mean why would I buy a shirt that costs about 20€ in one shop when I can have two shirts, a sweater and awesome shorts for the same amount of money from a thrift store?

Quality value


Just because the clothes are cheap, doesn't mean their quality is! More than anything, I found gems with great quality mostly in thrift stores.
And thrift stores aren't just selling old clothes that were thrown away. They're checking the quality thorougly before selling them.

You'll find mostly hidden treasures that are just one of a kind!


It's rare to find one piece twice in a thrift store. Which is freaking awesome in my opinion (not very much so when you'd love this certain piece in another size). This will give you that special something because you're not likely to see anyone else walking around the town with the same outfit. You can create your very own style and since you never know what you'll find, you might find something you never thought you'd need.

It's good for the environment!


Re-using something that has already been used instead of letting it being thrown away is a super green thing to do. Not only do you actively choose not to support shady cooperations and brands who employ in horrific working conditions but you also support ethical clothing and acknowledge how much of toxic pesticides, chemicals and water is being used with the production of clothing.
If you would like to take a look at a list of ethical clothing brands, find this list by Patti from Shifting Tales here.


Thrift stores are great for collectors!


There aren't just clothes, you'll definitely find books, CDs, old records, cassettes, mugs, scarves, paintings, movies, jewellery and much more you can look through. It's definitely worth it to just have a look around.

Thrift stores help the community.


Whilst thrift shopping, you help give back to local communities. Many thrift stores are run by nonprofit, charitable organisations that also pull their double duties to provide other needed services for the community. Shopping at these stores will keep them in business, especially for the benefit of low-income households and others in need.

And last but not least, thrift stores let you recycle your own clothes.


Now I don't think all thrift stores do this but I do know of some that do, based on commissions of course. Instead of throwing them away or anything, your clothes can definitely find a second home in thrift stores.


Do you ever go to thrift stores? What are you most amazing finds so far?

Until then - stay conscious,
Arden

Last week I found myself a pretty cool smaller handbag and so I thought I'd show you what I love about it and what's inside. I found this gem in a thrift store (those of you who want to know which one it is in Dresden, it's the HUMANA Second Hand shop at Postplatz in the city centre). Therefore I can't really say anything about the brand or whatnot but when I got this I could see it was used and I was happy that I could give it another life because it is so lovely.

It seems to be great leather and since it's black I can wear it to anything. Also it comes with three inner pockets that are of the same size, a small on in the last pocket, one in the front and another one in the back. I find the three pockets on the inside are so practical and clever since I hate having to rummage around for hours till I could find anything. Those three pockets save my life since I can just divide my stuff and find it much faster and have everything in order.

So what's inside?

First pocket: Money pouch (Deichmann) / Keys / Earphones / Phone

Second pocket: Small pouch (Etsy) with meds, pills, lipsticks, mints / Hand cream (Yves Rocher) / Dove's original Anti-Transpirant

Third pocket: Passport (was on trip) / Card holder (for my credit card and other cards)

Front pocket: Tissue (because runny noses in autumn) / Essence's Camouflage with both powder & make up in one for touch-ups on the go / Contacts Containe if I happen to sleep over at a friend's house


What are your handbag essentials? What's your go to bag?

Until then - stay groovy,
Arden

Handbag Essentials

11/02/2016


Last week I found myself a pretty cool smaller handbag and so I thought I'd show you what I love about it and what's inside. I found this gem in a thrift store (those of you who want to know which one it is in Dresden, it's the HUMANA Second Hand shop at Postplatz in the city centre). Therefore I can't really say anything about the brand or whatnot but when I got this I could see it was used and I was happy that I could give it another life because it is so lovely.

It seems to be great leather and since it's black I can wear it to anything. Also it comes with three inner pockets that are of the same size, a small on in the last pocket, one in the front and another one in the back. I find the three pockets on the inside are so practical and clever since I hate having to rummage around for hours till I could find anything. Those three pockets save my life since I can just divide my stuff and find it much faster and have everything in order.

So what's inside?

First pocket: Money pouch (Deichmann) / Keys / Earphones / Phone

Second pocket: Small pouch (Etsy) with meds, pills, lipsticks, mints / Hand cream (Yves Rocher) / Dove's original Anti-Transpirant

Third pocket: Passport (was on trip) / Card holder (for my credit card and other cards)

Front pocket: Tissue (because runny noses in autumn) / Essence's Camouflage with both powder & make up in one for touch-ups on the go / Contacts Containe if I happen to sleep over at a friend's house


What are your handbag essentials? What's your go to bag?

Until then - stay groovy,
Arden

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