Reading Will Darbyshire's "This Modern Love" inspired me to write my own letter to the person I feel most connected to but cannot be with. And instead of keeping it in my belongings of my future past, I've decided to actually send it to him.

I have no idea how he will react but I will have to find out. And with that, I'm sending along a mixtape that I've gradually made for him. It's more of a playlist with songs added each at a time.

And then there's also this poster of his favourite band that I got twice as a present. I'm keeping one for me and giving one to him. He thinks he's receiving some kind of surprise gift but it is more of a pile of feelings that I'd build for him and hell, am I curious about his reaction.
Well, this is what I wrote him. (Lower case intended.)
hello. i suck at writing letters and i hope you'll be able to read all this because i know it is going to be a lot and i don't really want to write it all over again.
i mean i don't know when we'll see each other again and i didn't want to text you all this and i didn't want to tell you over the phone because i'd rather get a full, thought out reaction than having to guess it. so i guess here you go.
the most important thing first: i like you. i always did and i still do and maybe i always will.
but it's not the obvious "i like you" although it is quite obvious as i am telling you this. i just mean that i don't really know what kind of "i like you" it is.
you know, sometimes you drive me insane. and then when we meet, everything makes sense. and then you'll confuse me and i'll confuse myself. and then i think, hey, we could be something really really great, and then i'd hit myself on the head and go, stop it, you're not seeing it the same way.
and i'm probably wasting my time and i know that, i know that i might be wasting my time but then again, i don't think i am. i'm not even waiting for you. this thing between us just ... happens. and i'm not hung up on you, i don't think. i just haven't met anyone else i would want to waste my time with.
and you just mean something to me and that goes further than my selfishness.
i don't really know what i want to say with this letter. maybe that i believe that if it's meant to happen, then it will happen. whatever that may be.
in love, friendship, what the hell,
Me.

Have you ever written a letter to your crush? What is something you wish you could finally tell them?

Until then - stay brave,
Arden 

Letter To Him - Inspired by This Modern Love

9/29/2016


Reading Will Darbyshire's "This Modern Love" inspired me to write my own letter to the person I feel most connected to but cannot be with. And instead of keeping it in my belongings of my future past, I've decided to actually send it to him.

I have no idea how he will react but I will have to find out. And with that, I'm sending along a mixtape that I've gradually made for him. It's more of a playlist with songs added each at a time.

And then there's also this poster of his favourite band that I got twice as a present. I'm keeping one for me and giving one to him. He thinks he's receiving some kind of surprise gift but it is more of a pile of feelings that I'd build for him and hell, am I curious about his reaction.
Well, this is what I wrote him. (Lower case intended.)
hello. i suck at writing letters and i hope you'll be able to read all this because i know it is going to be a lot and i don't really want to write it all over again.
i mean i don't know when we'll see each other again and i didn't want to text you all this and i didn't want to tell you over the phone because i'd rather get a full, thought out reaction than having to guess it. so i guess here you go.
the most important thing first: i like you. i always did and i still do and maybe i always will.
but it's not the obvious "i like you" although it is quite obvious as i am telling you this. i just mean that i don't really know what kind of "i like you" it is.
you know, sometimes you drive me insane. and then when we meet, everything makes sense. and then you'll confuse me and i'll confuse myself. and then i think, hey, we could be something really really great, and then i'd hit myself on the head and go, stop it, you're not seeing it the same way.
and i'm probably wasting my time and i know that, i know that i might be wasting my time but then again, i don't think i am. i'm not even waiting for you. this thing between us just ... happens. and i'm not hung up on you, i don't think. i just haven't met anyone else i would want to waste my time with.
and you just mean something to me and that goes further than my selfishness.
i don't really know what i want to say with this letter. maybe that i believe that if it's meant to happen, then it will happen. whatever that may be.
in love, friendship, what the hell,
Me.

Have you ever written a letter to your crush? What is something you wish you could finally tell them?

Until then - stay brave,
Arden 




So since my third semester is starting on the 4th of October, I thought I'd look for stationary online and holy noodles, I'm in love. I have purchased some of these actually and the rest is still on my wish list. Well here's the stationary heaven I'm talking about and I can assure you I am so looking forward to going back to uni, you don't even understand.

I've always been a huge sucker for pretty notebooks, even though I never really know what to write in them because they're just too pretty to be smudged with my awful quick writing and my weird doodles. But I do enjoy jotting down notes or exercises in them because I enjoy writing into pretty notebooks and I love reading my notes in pretty notebooks so I guess it's definitely a perk to own them.

Ringbinders are a big must-have for me at college since I like to have them subjects in one binder so I won't forget anything every day. It's not as much of a bulk of notes anymore as I used to have in high school so this actually works out for me now. Also, those file dividers definitely help and add a gorgeous look to your notes.

A huge weekly planner pad is so good to have since I see it everytime I'm at my desk at home and it's big and pretty and just there in case you have to jot down any notes quickly. Nowadays I make use of it pretty often as it always catches my eye once I get home.

And if you're a to do list writer like me and just LOVE writing lists, to do list pads are the thing for you, especially if your lists tend to be long for the day. Very handy to me and I definitely love using them list pads.

Have you started college yet? What are your must-haves for the semester? Let me know in the comments!

Until then - stay smart,
Arden

Back To College Shopping

9/28/2016





So since my third semester is starting on the 4th of October, I thought I'd look for stationary online and holy noodles, I'm in love. I have purchased some of these actually and the rest is still on my wish list. Well here's the stationary heaven I'm talking about and I can assure you I am so looking forward to going back to uni, you don't even understand.

I've always been a huge sucker for pretty notebooks, even though I never really know what to write in them because they're just too pretty to be smudged with my awful quick writing and my weird doodles. But I do enjoy jotting down notes or exercises in them because I enjoy writing into pretty notebooks and I love reading my notes in pretty notebooks so I guess it's definitely a perk to own them.

Ringbinders are a big must-have for me at college since I like to have them subjects in one binder so I won't forget anything every day. It's not as much of a bulk of notes anymore as I used to have in high school so this actually works out for me now. Also, those file dividers definitely help and add a gorgeous look to your notes.

A huge weekly planner pad is so good to have since I see it everytime I'm at my desk at home and it's big and pretty and just there in case you have to jot down any notes quickly. Nowadays I make use of it pretty often as it always catches my eye once I get home.

And if you're a to do list writer like me and just LOVE writing lists, to do list pads are the thing for you, especially if your lists tend to be long for the day. Very handy to me and I definitely love using them list pads.

Have you started college yet? What are your must-haves for the semester? Let me know in the comments!

Until then - stay smart,
Arden


Today I thought I'd share with you what my baby / phone is all about and which apps I use every day to schedule and organize my life because I'm a messy person like that and suck at adulting. I've got an iPhone 6s in silver and I've got the 64 GB version because I got sick of constantly having to delete things as I take many, many pictures and videos in general specifically and get very sentimental if I ever had to delete something.

It's my alarm, my tracker, my musical companion and my camera whenever I need it. And these are the apps I use. These are a lot. Just saying.


The general stuff

  • I use the Outlook Mail & Calendar the most when it comes to planning and organizing. The first thing I do each morning is check my schedule on the integrated calendar (I used the Sunrise Calendar before which is similar to the Outlook calendar now but it was shut down so they could focus on the Outlook calendar).
    Since my personal and professional e-mail accounts and my calendar are on the same app it is quite practical to use for me. You can add several calendars if you need a division of your calendar into different colours, etc. I have the calendars for events and appointments, for blog updates, for wattpad updates and my general writing schedule, one for uni and one for work so I can have a better overview.
  • I use the Weather and clock apps that were originally on the phone and I think it's self-explanatory why I use them. I have about ten alarms on the clock app, it's ridiculous. And of course I enabled the world clock for Hanoi for my family over there, for London and Los Angeles for friends and other relatives. As for the weather, I find that the Yahoo weather app works great as well.
  • The original map app doesn't work well with me so I abandoned it for the Google maps app that has saved my life so many times as my orientation is very poor most times.
  • For fast note taking I use the Notes app that was already on the phone but I usually migrate them over to Evernote because there's where all my notes go in the end of the day.
  • I'm trying my best to keep track of my finances so I'm using Spendee to help me with that. More on the app and how I keep track here.
  • Eve by Glow is an app where I track my period (but it also tracks ovulation). It's the best app I found yet and I love the community on there, as well as the feature that the app has where you can track your mood and well-being quite easily.
  • For backing up all of my crap I use OneDrive and Dropbox. Very easy to use and practical because I have access to all my documents and media on any device, anywhere. For my pictures I use Google Photos that automatically backs up my photos and videos whenever I have wifi so I can delete anything on my phone and still have it on Google Photos. Unlimited. And for free. I'd say it's great.
  • As I'm the biggest procrastinator I know I decided to make use of Pomodrone and Forest to stay away from my phone and be productive until the timer stops.
  • For everything lists for groceries, shopping or planning trips, I use the Wunderlist. Great and simple, very easy to use and I freaking love the sound it makes whenever I tick something off. So satisfying. 

Trips & Events

  • Lonely Planet Guides: Because I need and like guides wherever I go for a vacation or plan one. Always love myself a clean interface. You can save sights or places by bookmarking them and use maps offline.
  • Booking.com is often used by me especially for searching hotels. As I'm using it often for my internship I've been keeping the site close to me ever since.
  • Couchsurfing is an app to talk to couchsurfers around the world, find a play to stay or offer one at your own place and plan meetups in your city!
  • Eventim is a German app with events of all kinds in my town or surrounding. It notifies my once concert tickets for my favourite artists are out to buy and I often look through musicals and shows on there to see what will be going on in the future. 


The Extras

  • Scanbot is an awesome app that lets you scan and save documents. As I'm not always with my printer and scanner at home I find that this apps makes it so easy to grasp the document in crisp format and I'm therefore able to send the picture just as it is as a scanned document in any file to anyone. Very helpful.
  • Spotify for all the music in all the playlists that I need in my life.
  • LINE Tools is a cute little app by LINE and offers all the extras I need in my life. That includes a ruler, a protractor, a compass, a level, a sound level meter, a stopwatch, a timer, a flashlight, mirror, magnifier for easier view, a QR code reader, an unit converter and size table and the most amazing thing to me: a spaghetti scale!
  • Mindly is an app for beautiful mindmaps that I mostly use for my story plots and characters. I use it on my tablet as well and I just love to use it as it's super simple to use and just very pretty.
  • Banking app & Paypal
  • Public transport

  • Google Translate & Pons Translator
  • Quizlet mainly for uni to study simpler questions or vocabulary on the go.
  • DHL Package Tracking
  • Ebay, Amazon, Etsy and YesStyle for the shopping queen in me.
  • Soundcloud for music and podcasts. 


The social networks


I think these are the most common apps anyone would use. Facebook, Messenger, Instagram, Twitter, Tumblr, Wattpad, Ask.fm, Youtube, Snapchat, .... yeah I use all of them. Probably too much and they probably ruin my life but oh, well.


For editing

  • VSCO has the best, crisp filters and I just adore adore adore it. Best photo editing app in my opinion.
  • Layout from Instagram for the collages that I don't use very often but I keep it for when I do need it. 

All things blogging

  • BlogTouch is the blog post editor app for Blogger.
  • Bloglovin so I can read all of your posts on the go and save them.
  • Disqus so I can read all the comments and reply to them. Joining conversations on there is just so fun.
  • Analytics so I can keep track of those Google Analytics.
  • Pinterest so I can save as many pins I like from Exo save pins of everything I'm interested in, as in art, collage and interior design. 

Wow, that's a lot of apps right there, Arden. What have you become? No wonder you're on your phone all the time. What are your to go apps? Which apps do you use the most? Let me know.

Until then - stay groovy,
Arden

What's On My Phone

9/21/2016



Today I thought I'd share with you what my baby / phone is all about and which apps I use every day to schedule and organize my life because I'm a messy person like that and suck at adulting. I've got an iPhone 6s in silver and I've got the 64 GB version because I got sick of constantly having to delete things as I take many, many pictures and videos in general specifically and get very sentimental if I ever had to delete something.

It's my alarm, my tracker, my musical companion and my camera whenever I need it. And these are the apps I use. These are a lot. Just saying.


The general stuff

  • I use the Outlook Mail & Calendar the most when it comes to planning and organizing. The first thing I do each morning is check my schedule on the integrated calendar (I used the Sunrise Calendar before which is similar to the Outlook calendar now but it was shut down so they could focus on the Outlook calendar).
    Since my personal and professional e-mail accounts and my calendar are on the same app it is quite practical to use for me. You can add several calendars if you need a division of your calendar into different colours, etc. I have the calendars for events and appointments, for blog updates, for wattpad updates and my general writing schedule, one for uni and one for work so I can have a better overview.
  • I use the Weather and clock apps that were originally on the phone and I think it's self-explanatory why I use them. I have about ten alarms on the clock app, it's ridiculous. And of course I enabled the world clock for Hanoi for my family over there, for London and Los Angeles for friends and other relatives. As for the weather, I find that the Yahoo weather app works great as well.
  • The original map app doesn't work well with me so I abandoned it for the Google maps app that has saved my life so many times as my orientation is very poor most times.
  • For fast note taking I use the Notes app that was already on the phone but I usually migrate them over to Evernote because there's where all my notes go in the end of the day.
  • I'm trying my best to keep track of my finances so I'm using Spendee to help me with that. More on the app and how I keep track here.
  • Eve by Glow is an app where I track my period (but it also tracks ovulation). It's the best app I found yet and I love the community on there, as well as the feature that the app has where you can track your mood and well-being quite easily.
  • For backing up all of my crap I use OneDrive and Dropbox. Very easy to use and practical because I have access to all my documents and media on any device, anywhere. For my pictures I use Google Photos that automatically backs up my photos and videos whenever I have wifi so I can delete anything on my phone and still have it on Google Photos. Unlimited. And for free. I'd say it's great.
  • As I'm the biggest procrastinator I know I decided to make use of Pomodrone and Forest to stay away from my phone and be productive until the timer stops.
  • For everything lists for groceries, shopping or planning trips, I use the Wunderlist. Great and simple, very easy to use and I freaking love the sound it makes whenever I tick something off. So satisfying. 

Trips & Events

  • Lonely Planet Guides: Because I need and like guides wherever I go for a vacation or plan one. Always love myself a clean interface. You can save sights or places by bookmarking them and use maps offline.
  • Booking.com is often used by me especially for searching hotels. As I'm using it often for my internship I've been keeping the site close to me ever since.
  • Couchsurfing is an app to talk to couchsurfers around the world, find a play to stay or offer one at your own place and plan meetups in your city!
  • Eventim is a German app with events of all kinds in my town or surrounding. It notifies my once concert tickets for my favourite artists are out to buy and I often look through musicals and shows on there to see what will be going on in the future. 


The Extras

  • Scanbot is an awesome app that lets you scan and save documents. As I'm not always with my printer and scanner at home I find that this apps makes it so easy to grasp the document in crisp format and I'm therefore able to send the picture just as it is as a scanned document in any file to anyone. Very helpful.
  • Spotify for all the music in all the playlists that I need in my life.
  • LINE Tools is a cute little app by LINE and offers all the extras I need in my life. That includes a ruler, a protractor, a compass, a level, a sound level meter, a stopwatch, a timer, a flashlight, mirror, magnifier for easier view, a QR code reader, an unit converter and size table and the most amazing thing to me: a spaghetti scale!
  • Mindly is an app for beautiful mindmaps that I mostly use for my story plots and characters. I use it on my tablet as well and I just love to use it as it's super simple to use and just very pretty.
  • Banking app & Paypal
  • Public transport

  • Google Translate & Pons Translator
  • Quizlet mainly for uni to study simpler questions or vocabulary on the go.
  • DHL Package Tracking
  • Ebay, Amazon, Etsy and YesStyle for the shopping queen in me.
  • Soundcloud for music and podcasts. 


The social networks


I think these are the most common apps anyone would use. Facebook, Messenger, Instagram, Twitter, Tumblr, Wattpad, Ask.fm, Youtube, Snapchat, .... yeah I use all of them. Probably too much and they probably ruin my life but oh, well.


For editing

  • VSCO has the best, crisp filters and I just adore adore adore it. Best photo editing app in my opinion.
  • Layout from Instagram for the collages that I don't use very often but I keep it for when I do need it. 

All things blogging

  • BlogTouch is the blog post editor app for Blogger.
  • Bloglovin so I can read all of your posts on the go and save them.
  • Disqus so I can read all the comments and reply to them. Joining conversations on there is just so fun.
  • Analytics so I can keep track of those Google Analytics.
  • Pinterest so I can save as many pins I like from Exo save pins of everything I'm interested in, as in art, collage and interior design. 

Wow, that's a lot of apps right there, Arden. What have you become? No wonder you're on your phone all the time. What are your to go apps? Which apps do you use the most? Let me know.

Until then - stay groovy,
Arden

Let's face it, many of us are really lazy when it comes to losing weight. Or maybe we just can't lose weight that easily because of our genes or maybe we can't really exercise as much due to lasting injuries. I, for instance, can't ride a bike anymore and I can't sprint or jump anymore as both of my knees have been injured in the past and the pain kind of stays long lasting now. Which sucks, but you know.

The things we all know by now that would help us lose weight are: sports and eating healthy. I don't have to touch on that anymore, do I? But I've been struggling as I started trying out diets and doing more sports because I've either lacked the time or the energy to do so (and my knees, dear god).

So I've been sticking with these steps (whilst doing yoga and pilates at home and taking walks) and I'm proud of myself either way because it did have some effect on my weight and fitness. Keep in mind this is what I do and I cannot promise it will work as well for you as I'm not a professional and everyone's body is different and works differently.

Drink water


See it this way: you shouldn't only drink when you're thirsty. The moment you say you're thirsty is a sign for you to understand that you're not doing a great job on keeping yourself hydrated. Being thirsty is like a warning so treat it like one. You should keep yourself hydrated all the time because that sign - that warning - should not actually appear at all.

I used to drink so, so little. I drink gallons a day now. And yes, you end up going to the bathroom a lot but it's worth it. At my internship I sit by a desk all day and have my water by the desk and a big glass. I keep drinking and getting new water bottles. On the run I keep a water bottle with me and remind myself to drink on the tram, on the bus, while waiting for the tram or bus, while being out with friends.

And I refill my bottle every time I hit the bathroom somewhere. At one point you just get used to it. Staying hydrated is the best thing you can do to your body as it flushes everything out quickly and it's good for your body anyway. This point may be very basic but damn, it's the best advice I could give anyone. It's so simple. Yet effective. And you don't even have to stay with just water, you can add lemon or orange for flavour which is also good for detox.

Also, it's always helpful to "control" your portions when you drink a cup of water before eating.

Downsize your plate


This is optical illusion that works. Put that food on a smaller plate. Yep, that's it. I found that whenever I eat out or have my food on a big plate I tend to want to eat up everything on that plate (because, well, I can). Once I use smaller plates, I'll take longer with eating because I end up "cherishing" the food since it looks so little on the plate and therefore better keep track of when I actually feel satisfied.


Eat slower


As mentioned before, eating slower makes you realize when you're actually already sated. It's because your body takes a little longer to give you a sign that you're sated and meanwhile you still feel as hungry as you were when you started eating so you just stuff yourself. And once you're like "Oh gosh, I'm so full", well, that should be a sign that you've taken it a little bit too far.

Eat less portions but more meals in a day


So most of us probably eat for breakfast, for lunch and for dinner. Those are usually known for the three main meal times. I only started doing this recently but I find it rather logical actually. My way of thinking was this: If I'm hungry, I eat loads because I crave for food the most then. If I'm not that hungry, I eat moderately. I get VERY hungry when I stay with the three big meals a day. And then I eat a lot three times a day. So if there's a way to stop being so damn hungry three times a day, I could start eating moderately at a time.

So I decided that I would eat to 5 meals a day - breakfast in the morning, snack in the morning before lunch, lunch, snack in the afternoon and dinner in the evening - but therefore I would downsize the portions of my meals. As I'm eating more meals a day I won't feel that burning hunger and "control" my portions better. I found this works and I will probably stick with this method for a long time.

I should probably also mention that being healthier for this method is probably better. I'm not dieting much or just sticking to salad or so (I do need my chicken, I'm not willing to let that go) but I do make sure it's the healthy stuff I'm taking in and that the food I take and make is balanced.


Eat bananas or watermelons as snacks


As bananas make me fuller than any other fruit and I like bananas, I like to bring them to work or uni and eat them in breaks. I tend to eat this first thing in the morning, too, ever since I tried out the banana diet (which is basically when you eat two bananas in the morning with a big cup of water and then eat normally for lunch and dinner and just eat bananas as snacks throughout the day). And I just love watermelon. It's refreshing and basically consists of water mostly.

Screw the chocolate or chips (unless you're on your period, then I feel bad for you and you are damn allowed to eat that chocolate bar) and get the fruits out. I also switched to eating more fruit when the time comes where I crave eating because I'm simply BORED.

But then again: eating sweets is not a crime


Treat yourself once in a while. Really. You deserve it. 


Hopefully these were kind of helpful and maybe I even was able to push some buttons (yes, I know some of you out there just cannot start drinking more). What are your top tips for losing weight? Let me know because I'm desperate. 

Until then - stay fit,
Arden

Probably The Easiest Ways To Lose Weight

9/17/2016


Let's face it, many of us are really lazy when it comes to losing weight. Or maybe we just can't lose weight that easily because of our genes or maybe we can't really exercise as much due to lasting injuries. I, for instance, can't ride a bike anymore and I can't sprint or jump anymore as both of my knees have been injured in the past and the pain kind of stays long lasting now. Which sucks, but you know.

The things we all know by now that would help us lose weight are: sports and eating healthy. I don't have to touch on that anymore, do I? But I've been struggling as I started trying out diets and doing more sports because I've either lacked the time or the energy to do so (and my knees, dear god).

So I've been sticking with these steps (whilst doing yoga and pilates at home and taking walks) and I'm proud of myself either way because it did have some effect on my weight and fitness. Keep in mind this is what I do and I cannot promise it will work as well for you as I'm not a professional and everyone's body is different and works differently.

Drink water


See it this way: you shouldn't only drink when you're thirsty. The moment you say you're thirsty is a sign for you to understand that you're not doing a great job on keeping yourself hydrated. Being thirsty is like a warning so treat it like one. You should keep yourself hydrated all the time because that sign - that warning - should not actually appear at all.

I used to drink so, so little. I drink gallons a day now. And yes, you end up going to the bathroom a lot but it's worth it. At my internship I sit by a desk all day and have my water by the desk and a big glass. I keep drinking and getting new water bottles. On the run I keep a water bottle with me and remind myself to drink on the tram, on the bus, while waiting for the tram or bus, while being out with friends.

And I refill my bottle every time I hit the bathroom somewhere. At one point you just get used to it. Staying hydrated is the best thing you can do to your body as it flushes everything out quickly and it's good for your body anyway. This point may be very basic but damn, it's the best advice I could give anyone. It's so simple. Yet effective. And you don't even have to stay with just water, you can add lemon or orange for flavour which is also good for detox.

Also, it's always helpful to "control" your portions when you drink a cup of water before eating.

Downsize your plate


This is optical illusion that works. Put that food on a smaller plate. Yep, that's it. I found that whenever I eat out or have my food on a big plate I tend to want to eat up everything on that plate (because, well, I can). Once I use smaller plates, I'll take longer with eating because I end up "cherishing" the food since it looks so little on the plate and therefore better keep track of when I actually feel satisfied.


Eat slower


As mentioned before, eating slower makes you realize when you're actually already sated. It's because your body takes a little longer to give you a sign that you're sated and meanwhile you still feel as hungry as you were when you started eating so you just stuff yourself. And once you're like "Oh gosh, I'm so full", well, that should be a sign that you've taken it a little bit too far.

Eat less portions but more meals in a day


So most of us probably eat for breakfast, for lunch and for dinner. Those are usually known for the three main meal times. I only started doing this recently but I find it rather logical actually. My way of thinking was this: If I'm hungry, I eat loads because I crave for food the most then. If I'm not that hungry, I eat moderately. I get VERY hungry when I stay with the three big meals a day. And then I eat a lot three times a day. So if there's a way to stop being so damn hungry three times a day, I could start eating moderately at a time.

So I decided that I would eat to 5 meals a day - breakfast in the morning, snack in the morning before lunch, lunch, snack in the afternoon and dinner in the evening - but therefore I would downsize the portions of my meals. As I'm eating more meals a day I won't feel that burning hunger and "control" my portions better. I found this works and I will probably stick with this method for a long time.

I should probably also mention that being healthier for this method is probably better. I'm not dieting much or just sticking to salad or so (I do need my chicken, I'm not willing to let that go) but I do make sure it's the healthy stuff I'm taking in and that the food I take and make is balanced.


Eat bananas or watermelons as snacks


As bananas make me fuller than any other fruit and I like bananas, I like to bring them to work or uni and eat them in breaks. I tend to eat this first thing in the morning, too, ever since I tried out the banana diet (which is basically when you eat two bananas in the morning with a big cup of water and then eat normally for lunch and dinner and just eat bananas as snacks throughout the day). And I just love watermelon. It's refreshing and basically consists of water mostly.

Screw the chocolate or chips (unless you're on your period, then I feel bad for you and you are damn allowed to eat that chocolate bar) and get the fruits out. I also switched to eating more fruit when the time comes where I crave eating because I'm simply BORED.

But then again: eating sweets is not a crime


Treat yourself once in a while. Really. You deserve it. 


Hopefully these were kind of helpful and maybe I even was able to push some buttons (yes, I know some of you out there just cannot start drinking more). What are your top tips for losing weight? Let me know because I'm desperate. 

Until then - stay fit,
Arden

How's it going, lovelies?

Different from my playlist for road trips that I will post here soon, I've been dying to show you the playlist I made when I was travelling to other cities, be it in Germany or outside of Germany. These songs just really give me the trip vibes and accompanied me during rides on highways across the country.


Oh we don't know the roads that we're heading down
We don't know if we're lost, that we'll find a way
We don't know if we leave, will we make it home
We don't know, there's hope, then we'll be okay 
– We Don't Know // The Strumbellas

We were walking in the streets of Paris
I was pouring me out and drinking you in
Girl, you look so European
Yeah, we were dancing in the streets of Paris 
– Streets of Paris // Will J. Cook


Blame it on your summer dress
Blame it on the city air

Blame it on everything or anything
See I wouldn't care 
– Cities // Nat & Alex Wolff

Big dreams we're running out of steam
Say bye or say hello
To bright lights
We're running in the night
We're running 
– 123Hope // Tom Rosenthal


Hopefully you enjoyed the playlist as much as I did (and obviously still do). What are your go to songs for road trips and highway rides? Let me know!

Until then - stay groovy,
Arden

Mixtape: On The Highway

9/14/2016


How's it going, lovelies?

Different from my playlist for road trips that I will post here soon, I've been dying to show you the playlist I made when I was travelling to other cities, be it in Germany or outside of Germany. These songs just really give me the trip vibes and accompanied me during rides on highways across the country.


Oh we don't know the roads that we're heading down
We don't know if we're lost, that we'll find a way
We don't know if we leave, will we make it home
We don't know, there's hope, then we'll be okay 
– We Don't Know // The Strumbellas

We were walking in the streets of Paris
I was pouring me out and drinking you in
Girl, you look so European
Yeah, we were dancing in the streets of Paris 
– Streets of Paris // Will J. Cook


Blame it on your summer dress
Blame it on the city air

Blame it on everything or anything
See I wouldn't care 
– Cities // Nat & Alex Wolff

Big dreams we're running out of steam
Say bye or say hello
To bright lights
We're running in the night
We're running 
– 123Hope // Tom Rosenthal


Hopefully you enjoyed the playlist as much as I did (and obviously still do). What are your go to songs for road trips and highway rides? Let me know!

Until then - stay groovy,
Arden

So I've moved places! At the end of last month I moved into my new rented flat in the same building and away from my old place that was only half the size of my new one!

I am very happy with the change and love that I have much more space on my walls now that I can taint with the things I love. In this post I'm not showing you all of my place, just the spaces that are completely set up by now. The rest is to come at a later time, it's pretty much still in the process of getting decorated.

Right above my bed you'll find a poster of my favourite German indie band "Annenmaykantereit" from their album cover. On the wall right by my bed you'll see the photo gallery with pictures of me and friends and postcards from the places I've been to and some that were sent to me by friends when they were in vacation. My photo gallery is far from complete but I wanted to show you what it looks like anyway.

And of course I couldn't keep the plants out. There's something really aesthetic and refreshing to have a plant in your place. You just have to remember to treat them well and not to forget about them.

The O'Donnell posters were pickups from the tattoo convention in my town earlier this year because my friend bought some of their spirits range. I thought they were super pretty and kept them ever since.

I got the huge and beautiful vintage clock from Nanunana, a rather famous shop for vintage stuff here in Germany. It didn't cost the world, either.

Many of you asked what bed sheets I have since I've had it on multiple photos of mine before. It's this one from IKEA. You're welcome. (Yes I love it so much I bought three of the same one.)



Now that my place has become such a pretty, happy place for me, I quite enjoy getting home after work, uni and any nighttime adventures. What are your essentials for your happy place?

Until then - stay groovy,
Arden

Moving Into My New Flat

9/09/2016


So I've moved places! At the end of last month I moved into my new rented flat in the same building and away from my old place that was only half the size of my new one!

I am very happy with the change and love that I have much more space on my walls now that I can taint with the things I love. In this post I'm not showing you all of my place, just the spaces that are completely set up by now. The rest is to come at a later time, it's pretty much still in the process of getting decorated.

Right above my bed you'll find a poster of my favourite German indie band "Annenmaykantereit" from their album cover. On the wall right by my bed you'll see the photo gallery with pictures of me and friends and postcards from the places I've been to and some that were sent to me by friends when they were in vacation. My photo gallery is far from complete but I wanted to show you what it looks like anyway.

And of course I couldn't keep the plants out. There's something really aesthetic and refreshing to have a plant in your place. You just have to remember to treat them well and not to forget about them.

The O'Donnell posters were pickups from the tattoo convention in my town earlier this year because my friend bought some of their spirits range. I thought they were super pretty and kept them ever since.

I got the huge and beautiful vintage clock from Nanunana, a rather famous shop for vintage stuff here in Germany. It didn't cost the world, either.

Many of you asked what bed sheets I have since I've had it on multiple photos of mine before. It's this one from IKEA. You're welcome. (Yes I love it so much I bought three of the same one.)



Now that my place has become such a pretty, happy place for me, I quite enjoy getting home after work, uni and any nighttime adventures. What are your essentials for your happy place?

Until then - stay groovy,
Arden
The Writer Tag was inspired by the lovely Bee from Vivatramp.
Some of you may know I've been writing a lot ever since I found the platform Wattpad and started to upload several projects of mine online. Some of you had questions about my writing, too so I figured I would answer those questions in this tag as well.

What do you write? What genre? Any reoccuring themes?


I've most possibly tried every genre, I think, but I feel most confident in writing Mystery, Romance and Short stories in general. I like to be vague in some and extremely direct and raw in other parts of my works because I like to move my readers in a certain direction and a realization, and at the same time I'd like my readers to wonder about vague descriptions, I'd like them to figure out and interpret certain things on their own.

What or who inspires you to write?


Honestly, the day to day life and reading books inspires me to write. Inspiration hits me unexpectedly most of the time though, I feel like I can't get motivated or inspired if I make myself plans and schedules. Being inspired to write is pretty much like a "mood" to me.

Where do you write, when and with what?


I mostly write BULKS in coffee shops. It doesn't matter if it's Starbucks or a local independent café. The silent hustle in the background and the mellow songs that are played really do put me into writing mood. I often find myself forgetting about time completely. And who doesn't like a coffee or tea and biscuits while diving into another world? As to when - I write in my free time, if I am feeling motivated and inspired. Sometimes that can be at four in the morning, sometimes it's during lunch time. I can write bulks in one weekend and stop for the next two weeks. Or I write snippets and pieces every two days. It really depends.

If you feel like tagging yourself, feel free to do so, I encourage you to!

Any tips for writer's block?


Writer's block is the worst thing a writer can come across. It's tough and frustrating. But what I do when that happens is to stay away from all my writing and not edit or read through any of my works for a while. And I read a lot. Many other books or stories online. I also like to push myself to at least write about something else. Like poetry or a completely new short story. Or create a whole new plot that I may or may not make use of in the Future. BUT. Don't ever give up.

Anything published yet?


I am currently editing and rewriting three of my works to get them self-published in paperback! The first book is called "Loopholes" and is a mystery and thriller read. The second and third book will be made into one book containing the short story "To Ethan" and its prequel "To Aubrey". You'll find their unrevised versions on Wattpad.

That's it guys! I hope you enjoyed reading a little bit about my writing. Any fellow writers of any kind out there? Let me know in the comments! Do tell me if you decide to join the tag as well.

Until then - stay creative,
Arden

The Writer Tag

9/04/2016

The Writer Tag was inspired by the lovely Bee from Vivatramp.
Some of you may know I've been writing a lot ever since I found the platform Wattpad and started to upload several projects of mine online. Some of you had questions about my writing, too so I figured I would answer those questions in this tag as well.

What do you write? What genre? Any reoccuring themes?


I've most possibly tried every genre, I think, but I feel most confident in writing Mystery, Romance and Short stories in general. I like to be vague in some and extremely direct and raw in other parts of my works because I like to move my readers in a certain direction and a realization, and at the same time I'd like my readers to wonder about vague descriptions, I'd like them to figure out and interpret certain things on their own.

What or who inspires you to write?


Honestly, the day to day life and reading books inspires me to write. Inspiration hits me unexpectedly most of the time though, I feel like I can't get motivated or inspired if I make myself plans and schedules. Being inspired to write is pretty much like a "mood" to me.

Where do you write, when and with what?


I mostly write BULKS in coffee shops. It doesn't matter if it's Starbucks or a local independent café. The silent hustle in the background and the mellow songs that are played really do put me into writing mood. I often find myself forgetting about time completely. And who doesn't like a coffee or tea and biscuits while diving into another world? As to when - I write in my free time, if I am feeling motivated and inspired. Sometimes that can be at four in the morning, sometimes it's during lunch time. I can write bulks in one weekend and stop for the next two weeks. Or I write snippets and pieces every two days. It really depends.

If you feel like tagging yourself, feel free to do so, I encourage you to!

Any tips for writer's block?


Writer's block is the worst thing a writer can come across. It's tough and frustrating. But what I do when that happens is to stay away from all my writing and not edit or read through any of my works for a while. And I read a lot. Many other books or stories online. I also like to push myself to at least write about something else. Like poetry or a completely new short story. Or create a whole new plot that I may or may not make use of in the Future. BUT. Don't ever give up.

Anything published yet?


I am currently editing and rewriting three of my works to get them self-published in paperback! The first book is called "Loopholes" and is a mystery and thriller read. The second and third book will be made into one book containing the short story "To Ethan" and its prequel "To Aubrey". You'll find their unrevised versions on Wattpad.

That's it guys! I hope you enjoyed reading a little bit about my writing. Any fellow writers of any kind out there? Let me know in the comments! Do tell me if you decide to join the tag as well.

Until then - stay creative,
Arden

Hello guys, you're back to a quite serious topic this time. I've been pondering a lot about whether or not to write this post but eventually I just had to get things off my chest. This is a personal experience that I haven't shared with many people but now I want to because I feel like this is something that cannot go unnoticed. I don't know if talking about this publicly is good or bad or inappropriate or wanted. But I'm just going to hit publish and see where this takes me. I cannot be the only one feeling this way.

About a month ago I was manipulated and talked into having sex with someone even though I really did not want to. A strong, independent woman like me should've stood up for myself but I didn't. And I can tell you why. I can't guarantee that you will understand but I can tell you why I was so numb about something that terrible.

He was being nice, yet I realized and I noticed that he was pushing me, that he was talking me into things and manipulating me. He wasn't violent in any way. But that doesn't mean rape doesn't happen just because they weren't violently pushing you into sleeping with them.

In that moment I felt as if I shouldn't disappoint him. Which is stupid, of course I know that, but in that moment I didn't think I could just push him away. I was scared and numb. And for a second I thought I wanted it, too. But then I quickly realized what was happening and I just ... I guess I blanked. I was numb. I couldn't say or do anything. Because in that moment it doesn't feel real. It feels as if you were watching yourself from outer space or something and you don't want to actually believe this kind of thing is happening to you. 

I was so, so ashamed. Afterwards especially because that's when it actually sunk in. And I still feel so ashamed and bash myself over how I didn't stop it. I wish I could have but it's not easy to understand for people who haven't been in the situation. You really do fall numb. And I don't have the biggest confidence, or maybe I don't have the best mental stability. But I just couldn't stop it.

Sometimes flashes of what happened come to my mind when I'm having the best time with my family or friends. And I haven't even told most of them because I think they would worry too much and make me feel more vulnerable by worrying about me so much. And I'm managing but still find myself feeling disgusted because for some reason I feel bad when he should.

Now I really, actually understand. You can't just report someone and it will be done with. Because it haunts you every day of your life and no matter how you handled the situation afterwards, no matter what this person got as a punishment, this disgusting feeling stays.

It stays and lingers and eats up your brain to the point you consciously and subconsciously build a wall around yourself and suddenly you're not that outgoing anymore and suddenly you're not as keen on body touch and hugging everyone. It does change you.

So, I don't really know where I'm going with this post. Am I just rambling out my thoughts or am I trying to help people stand up to whoever ever made them feel like they were at fault when they weren't? Do I want to encourage people to talk about it? I don't know.

I just would love the awareness. More awareness. There are so many stories out there, similar ones and worse ones. And even ones where it fortunately never got so far. Every story matters. And I would like to encourage people to have a little re-think. Are you happy? Do you really want it? Or do you just want to please the person so they won't be disappointed? Stand up for yourself. You're more than what that person tells you. Don't be manipulated. Fight for yourself.

Well, now I think most of my loved ones or friends will know what really happened when I felt so off for a couple weeks. If they'll get to reading this, that is. But there's one thing I want to tell my friends and also you, my lovely readers. I know you're here for me and care for me and I appreciate that more than you think, even if you're just a passers-by reader. And if I need to talk about it any more, I will. But I'm just a normal girl whom things happened to. And I'm writing about this now because I feel better now. About the whole situation. I'm not pregnant or anything. I feel well and healthy again. I'm back to my feet. I'm back to socializing more. There are bad days where it overwhelms me. But I'm managing.

Until then - stay safe,
Arden

Seriously Ashamed - Self Judgement & Assault

9/01/2016


Hello guys, you're back to a quite serious topic this time. I've been pondering a lot about whether or not to write this post but eventually I just had to get things off my chest. This is a personal experience that I haven't shared with many people but now I want to because I feel like this is something that cannot go unnoticed. I don't know if talking about this publicly is good or bad or inappropriate or wanted. But I'm just going to hit publish and see where this takes me. I cannot be the only one feeling this way.

About a month ago I was manipulated and talked into having sex with someone even though I really did not want to. A strong, independent woman like me should've stood up for myself but I didn't. And I can tell you why. I can't guarantee that you will understand but I can tell you why I was so numb about something that terrible.

He was being nice, yet I realized and I noticed that he was pushing me, that he was talking me into things and manipulating me. He wasn't violent in any way. But that doesn't mean rape doesn't happen just because they weren't violently pushing you into sleeping with them.

In that moment I felt as if I shouldn't disappoint him. Which is stupid, of course I know that, but in that moment I didn't think I could just push him away. I was scared and numb. And for a second I thought I wanted it, too. But then I quickly realized what was happening and I just ... I guess I blanked. I was numb. I couldn't say or do anything. Because in that moment it doesn't feel real. It feels as if you were watching yourself from outer space or something and you don't want to actually believe this kind of thing is happening to you. 

I was so, so ashamed. Afterwards especially because that's when it actually sunk in. And I still feel so ashamed and bash myself over how I didn't stop it. I wish I could have but it's not easy to understand for people who haven't been in the situation. You really do fall numb. And I don't have the biggest confidence, or maybe I don't have the best mental stability. But I just couldn't stop it.

Sometimes flashes of what happened come to my mind when I'm having the best time with my family or friends. And I haven't even told most of them because I think they would worry too much and make me feel more vulnerable by worrying about me so much. And I'm managing but still find myself feeling disgusted because for some reason I feel bad when he should.

Now I really, actually understand. You can't just report someone and it will be done with. Because it haunts you every day of your life and no matter how you handled the situation afterwards, no matter what this person got as a punishment, this disgusting feeling stays.

It stays and lingers and eats up your brain to the point you consciously and subconsciously build a wall around yourself and suddenly you're not that outgoing anymore and suddenly you're not as keen on body touch and hugging everyone. It does change you.

So, I don't really know where I'm going with this post. Am I just rambling out my thoughts or am I trying to help people stand up to whoever ever made them feel like they were at fault when they weren't? Do I want to encourage people to talk about it? I don't know.

I just would love the awareness. More awareness. There are so many stories out there, similar ones and worse ones. And even ones where it fortunately never got so far. Every story matters. And I would like to encourage people to have a little re-think. Are you happy? Do you really want it? Or do you just want to please the person so they won't be disappointed? Stand up for yourself. You're more than what that person tells you. Don't be manipulated. Fight for yourself.

Well, now I think most of my loved ones or friends will know what really happened when I felt so off for a couple weeks. If they'll get to reading this, that is. But there's one thing I want to tell my friends and also you, my lovely readers. I know you're here for me and care for me and I appreciate that more than you think, even if you're just a passers-by reader. And if I need to talk about it any more, I will. But I'm just a normal girl whom things happened to. And I'm writing about this now because I feel better now. About the whole situation. I'm not pregnant or anything. I feel well and healthy again. I'm back to my feet. I'm back to socializing more. There are bad days where it overwhelms me. But I'm managing.

Until then - stay safe,
Arden

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