Moving out for the first time

9/18/2015



As you guys may already know from my past few blog posts, I have recently moved out for the very first time in my life. It is a bigger city which is only an hour away from my home town and the reason I moved after graduating High School is because I am now in college! (It is more of a private institution so I had to find myself my own place to live in.)

Needless to say, I was so excited (and still am because I only recently moved in). Here are some things I found out while going through the process of moving out for the very first time in my life. I hope these tips help you avoid the stress I've had. I'll also share with you the stuff I packed (which was a lot but oh so very necessary) and how I felt when I'd officially moved in.

First things first, apartment hunting is not that easy and it really does take a long time. You might think that there are so many sites and so many adverts so you should be able to find something shortly.

NO. It seemed like an easy thing for me at first: Many adverts, I'll just keep them in mind, add them to my bookmarks, schedule appointments and then just pick one -- done. It isn't that easy at all. Because it's not even just about the apartment itself.

It's the neighbourhood, the traffic connection, the distance to the college or your work place - and on top of that: you have to be quick. My tip is to start apartment hunting rather early because especially after graduation (which was in July for me), loads of students will go apartment hunting and all the good (and cheaper) apartments will be gone if you don't act quickly.

What I Did


Make a list of what you require in an apartment. My list looked something like this:

+ near the city centre (I work part time in the city centre and I also need to get there in order to catch the bus to my college)
+ small apartment (because I'll live by myself and a small space is enough for me)
+ nice neighbourhood
+ good traffic connection
+ any floor between ground and the highest floor is fine if there's an elevator
+ if there's no elevator I'd prefer 1st floor (not ground floor because of my privacy and noise)
+ if possible not the highest floor (because warm air does rise so it will be hotter up there)
+ easy access to college and convenient stores
+ budget friendly

Try to fit all appointments in one day or in one week so you won't have to keep driving back and forth (if you're looking for an apartment in another town) and you get more looking done in a short period of time. It's important to be quick or else other interested people will snatch a good apartment away from you (which you really don't want to happen).

Write a list of all the things you will want to have in your apartment, then mark what you already have and what you still need to buy. If you found stuff from Ikea or any other store, write behind every product the name and - if you know it - the price of the purchase so you will remember later. 

Think of every little detail so you won't forget anything. The best way is probably to go step for step in each room.

But trust me, some things you've written down won't even make it in your apartment and it's not a big deal. (I bought a wonderful vintage clock and then I had to realize that it wasn't going to fit on the wall because I'd already decorated it with artworks and quotes and I didn't want it to look too filled.)

Make a sketch of the apartment with its proportions (EVERYTHING. Don't forget windows and smaller spaces) and measure every purchase and every furniture to make sure it all fits. 

Don't go furniture shopping before measuring everything. I mean what are you gonna do if the bed won't fit? Eh. 

Click around on the web for inspiration or Ikea hacks, those can help you be more creative or even more space-efficient.

What about the Internet? That is something very important to think of as you buy/rent your apartment. Go on the Internet or ask the broker if he could suggest any packs and hosts. You can also go for WiFi and share it with your neighbour (if he or she lives close enough to your apartment/dorm) and divide the fees. 

In my case, I have decided to go Internet-less at home. (I use 3G on my phone so I'm not completely cut off.) Yeah, I know that's crazy on so many levels. I won't be able to watch any YouTube videos as I get ready, I won't be able to watch TV shows online when they air. But I've set some priorities and since my college fees and my rent aren't cheap, I decided to just use the WiFi in the library not far away from here. This is how I am still able to blog, update my Wattpad books, watch videos, etc. And to be honest, I'm doing okay. I'm even more organised now, I am more productive and I stick with my updating schedule. (In other words: I'm okay. I'm surviving. Don't you worry about me.)

Jot down important locations, bus stops and routes. 

For me that included the library, the routes to my college, to downtown, etc. It's a no brainer that you'll have to know how to get around in a new place.


And you can't forget the doctors.

Sooner or later you'll probably become ill. And then you'll need to find a doctor. Don't let yourself struggle more when the time comes and write down the names, addresses and phone numbers of general doctors, gynecologists, dentists - whoever you need. 


What I Felt


Okay, now comes the emotional part. I was so excited to finally move out, not because my family annoys me but because I wanted to be independent and explore the world, you know? 

I kept talking about moving soon to all my friends with such high hopes and over the top euphoria that I couldn't handle it until we finally got to my apartment and started unpacking and building the furniture.

That's why it hit me so incredibly hard when my family got out of my door and said their Goodbyes. 

I was overwhelmed when the evening broke in and there was nobody I could come home to in that new town. I knew some people, had friends there, but they were all busy and I felt lonely. 

Not even lonely, just... out of place. I mean this wasn't home. I had so many familiar things in my apartment to prevent homesickness but the place still felt foreign. 

I cried a lot. It was only the first day in my new home but I cried and cried and cried. I was the one who kept telling my sister that she shouldn't be sad because we could text every day and meet on every weekend because it's not too far from home. I was the one who told my mother that she shouldn't worry, I was going to be fine and be well, I was going to come back home sometimes. 

But in that moment, I felt like I was the one who needed comfort. It was hell and I didn't think it would hit me that hard. I knew I was going to miss my family because they're my everything and they've always been but I didn't know it was going to be this heavy, widespread feeling in my body, just aching, going away after crying and occasionally coming back in waves.

At first I was mad because none of my friends who moved away told me how hard the first few days and maybe weeks would be. But then again I understand why they didn't warn me. I would've chosen not to go, probably. But this is something I have to do. I came here for college, for stepping into my new adult life. And this is not a warning because maybe you'll see it differently and be happy and only feel homesick after being away for a while. Everybody is different. 

But just prepare yourselves. And I promise it does get better. If you want me to write about how to deal with homesickness, let me know.


I hope this helped some of you. Let me know about your experiences or tips in the comments! 


From the girl who feels more like an adult now,
Arden.

1 comment

  1. Great tips! I just moved out too but together with my boyfriend so it was a bit easier. I also live close to my mom's place :) xx

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