Here's a simple check list I've made (also for myself) to remind yourself whether you're taking care of yourself or not. I'm bringing this back because many of my new readers haven't yet read it on my old blog.
So what do you do with this?
All you have to do is mentally tick the things listed that you actually do (be honest) and proudly pat yourself on the shoulder as you do and think about the things you don't do.
And don't just think about them, try to do those things, I swear these help me balance out my life and become confident with myself and with how I deal with things.
Here we go.
1. Be a morning person once in a while!
So you can start your day early, being super productive. Read the newspaper, do some yoga, take your time making a good breakfast and drink tea - after that no running late, no stress, no feeling behind!
You're not a weak person if you break down once in a while. Don't let those demons and negative feelings eat you alive while you try and put a brave face on. Feel - embrace the sadness, the anger, the frustration, lean into your fears, talk about your weaknesses. Don't be ashamed. You're just human after all.
3. Write a journal.
You can buy a pretty notebook or write your journal online, whatever. The great thing is that you can vent and rant about everything you want. No bleeps, curse words allowed. It's your space. No one will know, no one will read. And sometimes you'll be able to reflect on events differently than you did before and maybe even find some solutions. It can be so eye-opening. It happens to me all the time.
4. Stop rushing to the next best thing.
Celebrate your accomplishments, may they be big or small, with rewards (again, may they be big or small). Be proud of yourself a little longer, think of your mini-successes a bit more often, it shows and it gives you those peachy cheeks!
5. Work on your weaknesses.
Be brave and reasonable, find the courage to dissolve them. Don't ignore what you can't do and what you're afraid of doing. One day, possibly, you'll have to face whatever it is you're fearing. There is nothing you can't do, some things take practice, some things take studying. There must be a reason why you can't do this or that - find it, work on it. Either way, there's no definite barrier, so don't treat your weakness as such.
6. Take care of your body.
Take the condition of your body seriously. Listen to your body. Eat mindfully, you don't need to count any calories or whatever else there is to count, you do what you want your body to feel like. Don't be dehydrated. You can even start taking cold showers, I found that it does wake you up and betters your condition. I might write another blog post about exactly that.
7. Practice saying no.
There are lots and lots of people who keep saying yes, either because they're nice or just for the sake of something, but not actually because saying yes to a certain offer serves their values. I don't know if you're one of these but I know I am. So say yes to what YOU want, say no to what you don't want and you won't feel as if you've chosen the wrong things.
8. It's okay if you don't know.
Sometimes we ask ourselves questions and beat ourselves up for not knowing the answers right away. Spoiler alert: It's alright not to know the answers! Stop being so hard on yourself for not knowing something, be confident with what you do know. You see, your surroundings help you grow, so go with that flow and allow yourself to watch and learn in your own pace.
9. Stop overthinking and overanalysing.
People and things are freaking confusing, I get it. I always get exhausted because I overthink and overanalyse every little damn detail. You really just need to wait for answers or ask for them if you're confused, instead of assuming things that could be absolute bull. I know it's hard but this step would save so much energy. You just sit and wait for an explanation if someone's upset you, be sure of what you need and want to know, get their explanations, then you'll be clear about what you want to happen next.
10. Move on.
My life now is as it is because of events in the past. Smaller or bigger ones. All those events in the past made my who I am today, made me weaker and stronger. But some memories kind of block my process of maturing. And those are the painful ones, mostly. Or even the ones that are irrelevant but hurt every time I recall them.
That's all there is for now. Have a nice week!
From a girl that cares about you,